It's not the JC staff you need to worry about really. Wait until your DH is unfortunate enough to be referred to one of the companies doing the 'Work Programme'. Or start hoping that he gets any job quicker than he is referred to it.
The JC staff at least have some idea how crap it is out there at the moment. And they are stuck, they have to follow the rules, which seem to change at a moment's notice.
The WP staff are the real arses. Most of them, it doesn't matter which 'Employment Consultancy' organisation they now work for, have worked for A4E at some point. They treat everyone with utter disdain and it seems that a DWP directive must have been sent prior to the WP being set up that all unemployed people are lazy scroungers who need threatening and being demeaned on a regular basis. Of course, following last weeks 'news'
that the WP is actually worse than useless, they have all had emails giving them a virtual kick up the arse. Which means that even though they can ignore you for 3 months and not even call to offer the support they are supposed to, (because they were so busy with so many new 'customers') they can then decide that you MUST attend once a week and sit there for 2 hours looking at old newspapers and waiting to use a phone or a computer to jobsearch, just so you can show them you are. Never mind that you are following all of the JSA agreement and more, never mind that you do apply for 'any job you are physically capable of doing' (despite being a skilled worker in your previous life) you must dance to the WP provider's tune.
If this includes attending courses on how to cold call, despite having been employed for nearly 40 years before you lost your job through redundancy, so be it.
It drains you, emotionally and physically. It demeans you, and makes you feel worthless. I appreciate how hard it is, and how angry it makes you. Just try to remember that it will pass, hopefully something will turn up soon, and life will get better.
Try to go easy on DH. He will feel like shit. There will be times when you feel like screaming, and blaming, and a torrent of other emotions. But you have each other, and your DCs, and your health. And that's what matters.
Oh, and have a (((HUG))). 