WWYD about this sleazy customer?

[Hydrophilic]

I have started a christmas job in a supermarket. Today the same man came through my till four times throughout the day making sleazy comments about "taking you to the bedroom" and telling me how pretty I am.

This man is old enough to be my father and clearly has ishoos. AIBU to raise it with my manager? It made me feel so awkward today and if I wasn't at work I would've told him to fuck off, i'm not a piece of meat.

He does this to all the young girls, some who are much younger than me. They find it horrible too but are too scared to speak.

[Icelollycraving]

I'm suggesting a team leader as it may make it informal not because I think you shouldn't highlight it to the manager,team leaders are often the buffer between team & management.

[MunchMunch]

I had an oldish fella (who i used to serve and chat to) tell me he'd got himself a new girlfriend and she loved to have sex, he leaned over the counter to tell me he had a 9" cock. I was shocked and embarressed so sort of laughed but i told my managers who done nothing. I told dp about it and he was demanding I tell him who he was, dp was NOT happy! I wouldnt say only because i knew violence would be involved and didn't want dp arrested or in trouble. I still see the perv around the estate but i don't think he remembers me.

[Icelollycraving]

I'm a retail manager,although in a different sector. I would hate for this to happen to my team & would want them to feel they could tell me. A little banter is one thing,creepiness & sleaziness are not acceptable whether it's a customer or colleague.
Do you have a team leader rather than going straight to management? Pop in to see hr & mention it,see what they suggest.
Congratulations on getting a job!

[Chottie]

Please speak to your manager, you say he is like this with all the young girls at work. It is unacceptable behaviour from anyone customer or not.

[Hydrophilic]

Hi Kundry- unfortunately he did buy things. Lotto, cigarettes and alcohol.

[mumsfretter]

Pom - I really don't think coming back with funny retorts is sensible at all.


I think you need to tell your manager straight away and i would directly tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable and would he kindly not talk in this way to you. A strong and formal reply is the best way to deal with him.

[FeckOffCup]

Tell him your "old man" is a 6 foot 6 champion cage fighter and very protective of you . He sounds like a total twat, don't engage with him, just give him the bare minumum of civility needed to do your job and then ignore his weird questions.

[Kundry]

Manager - if nothing else he's not actually buying anything is he? So wasting time you could be retailing.

[EuroShagmore]

Don't banter. Don't engage at all. Move away from him if he starts talking to you. Report to your manager.

[musicalendorphins]

I agree, report to the manager and security, and don't engage with him.
Ask your manager for advice on what to say when he asks you personal questions maybe?

[helpyourself]

Another vote for not bantering. Dealing with this sort of thing is exactly what supervisors do; don't worry about it, just pass it on!

[CookingFunt]

Don't get into banter with him. Alert your manager and/or security when he approaches your till.

[NotQuiteWithItAtAll]

I get this kind of thing on a regular basis, usually a bunch of young guys. I tend to pretend they didn't even speak, hurt their ego a little bit. I couldn't care less. It does suck and you shouldn't put up with it! Unfortunately my managers just see it as money, couldn't care less about their staff.

[manicbmc]

Tell him your dp is a policeman or a bouncer. He'll sharp stop.

[ImperialBlether]

The only answer to that question about your husband is to say he's in the police.

[Hydrophilic]

Pom-I'd be really wary to do that as I can see him taking that as flirting with him!

Gawd, he came in with this old story of how he was a captain in the army (dream on mate) and asking me lots of questions.

He wanted to know if I live locally, what my "old man" does for a living (I stupidly thought he was asking about my dad, but thinking about it I think he was referring to DP).

[ZebraOwl]

YANBU

It is part of retail to have customers who behave badly in a whole variety of ways. You'd not be expected to Just Put Up With It if a customer tried to throttle you with a shopping bag & you shouldn't have to put up with this!

Report it to your manager & if you have a union rep talk to them too.

[MysticMugBug]

what a prick.
i was uncomfortable with some sleazy twat when i was at the public library this week. i was in the newspaper reading area, he was in front of me facing the other direction and kept turning around to look up my skirt.
i told the library staff despite thinking that they might not be able to act.
It's fucking disgusting how some people (in my case from a different culture) think they can treat women. Do what you can to get him banned

[charlmarascoxo]

I worked in a supermarket whilst I was a student. I had a sleazy man buy some condoms, and asked me if they were any good and do I use them .Worst part was his wife an daughter were stood with him and seemed to find it funny.

Its awful to be made to feel uncomfortable. Definitely raise it with your manager.

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

Just laugh as though it's the most hilarious thing you ever heard and say "aww bless you love, can you not get down to dust under the bed anymore? Old age comes to us all" or "ooo fancy mentioning the bedroom at pointedly your age" and start wittering about your granny or granda.
He probably gets some kind of kick out of making young girls feel uncomfortable, and knowing you all daren't/can't answer back because you're at work. By laughing as though you think he's joking/bantering, even if you are being filmed, it looks like you're being pleasant and chatting to the customers, and he looks like an even bigger arse if he complains.

[SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots]

Any customer, or person, who mentions taking you to the bedroom is worthy of being flagged, 2nd day or not.
I wasn't getting at you.
Report him. ASAP. Before the security cameras tape is overwritten.

[BOFingSanta]

Sadly, it IS part of retail. But you still don't have to put up with it. Yes, you should raise it with your manager.

[Cantbelieveitsnotbutter]

I'd defo raise it, more so if there's younger girls being perved over too.

[Hydrophilic]

Squirted- I didnt want to rock the boat on my 2nd day . I thought people on here might just say it's part of retail and to ignore it.

[Glitterknickaz]

kill 'im...