To think you can still eat food with salt in it after a c-section?

[Fakebook]

Prepared to be told I'm wrong. So, is food with salt allowed after a c-section? Assuming there are no hypertension problems or other problems.

[Fakebook]

She knows I won't believe her and its not true and that's what will make this more enjoyable for her.

She told me the c-section date was 28th November. My brother phoned yesterday and told us she'd had the baby . They didn't ask me (the only relative they have here) to lookafter their Dd's. I can only assume it was all planned for yesterday and they took them in with them or asked someone else to pick them from school, but seems unlikely.

[IfYouCanMoveItItsNotBroken]

You can't get upset over this, it's snide and bitchy and unnecessary. You have 2 options from what I can see, either completely ignore her so you don't appear to be the bitch who has a go at a woman who just gave birth or play her at her own game - "oh, I see, no salt, yes, I've heard that" closely followed by a speech about the new guidelines for the risks posed by 2nd hand clothes which forced you to burn the lot of them. Both know the other is speaking shit but she might not feel she has one over on you. Reading back my advice is crap, in reality I would probably just laugh in her face, there WILL come a time she needs a favour if you're the only local family. Have a shit excuse ready. Bitchiness/ pettiness really makes me want to respond in the same way, bugger taking the high road.

[picnicbasketcase]

Send your brother with a message saying you need the clothes back because you've been told they will cure an ingrown toenail.

[stifnstav]

Did you label it up "Bitch Marinade: to be rubbed into one's wagine/wounds until it stings" because if you did, YABU and just downright mean.

No salt in the wagine/wounds please.

Just in case you don't know, you have to pronounce "wagine" like tagine.

And how rude of her btw. I really want some soup now.

[CoolaSchmoola]

Is she a little bit stupid?

I do actually mean that! Because when I had DD last year I had 2nd degree tears and was told NOT to bathe in salt water or anything else, plain old water only, as it might cause infection in my stitches....

Wondering is SIL was told not to bathe in salt water as it might infect her cut, and she has misunderstood because she's stupid. There is NO way that something you eat can cause a wound problem.

[BuddyTheChristmasElf]

I don't understand how salt can infect a wound?

saline is used to clean wounds in hospitals

what pathogens live in/feed off salt????

[differentnameforthis]

Tell her the idea was she ate it, not poured it on her scar. Stupid women. Her, not you.

[Monty27]

I'm a non med person but have had 3 cs's.

From memory, salt is to be avoided to keep all swellings down.... ie fluids and feet should always be kept up.

(it was a while ago)

[Wheresmypopcorn]

Why didn't she just throw it out to spare your feelings? Why send it back?

[JessieMcJessie]

And why did your DH present it back to you and not throw it out to preserve your feelings? Sounds like he's a stirrer.

[cjbk1]

mrsjay please don't "gargle with salt water after having a tooth out" unless you want a painful infection; you need to
wait 24 hours then bathe the area with salt water ie hold it in your mouth over the socket no rinsing or gargling action at all or you'll remove the blood clot and prevent healing. registered dental nurse with ten years experience on maternity leave

[Finallygotaroundtoit]

You were being kind but sending soup in to hospital is a bad idea - no where to heat it up.Food is provided.

Also sending bags of unwanted clothes onto a ward is worse - she doesn't have time to 'sort through' and they will just get in the way.

[TeeHollyandTeeIvy]

Oh yes, that's right, it's the OP's fault that her SIL is an ungrateful cow.

Honestly, what with MN lately? The POs are taking over and bringing the terminally stupid and ungrateful with them.

[Chubfuddler]

Why did you send her this stuff? You're just giving her ammunition to kick you in the teeth (mixing my metaphors but you know what I mean). You don't have to give her your baby clothes just because she demands them. Tell her no.

[Chubfuddler]

I would imagine it was in a thermos. And her sister asked for the clothes.

[MammaTJ]

I have had two C sections, not told not to have salt at all. Told to bath in salt water though, to help heal the wound.

What a bitch!!

[Finallygotaroundtoit]

So home made chicken soup that can't be heated to avoid food poisoning
and
bags of clothes (that I suspect the SIL wanted before her baby was born) should be gratefully accepted by someone recovering from surgery to spare the ops feelings?

[ipswichwitch]

She might have got the clothes before the baby was born if she hadn't lied about her cs date (told op it was 28th)
I had a cs last year and nobody mentioned anything about salt- was hard enough getting food in me given the problems we had never mind scrutinising for salt intake.
fakebook you made a lovely gesture, and wether she appreciated it or not she didn't have to be rude about it. I've had issues with my DB (ad exSIL) before and I ended up taking them to task about it before backing off. On that occasion it was wan out the assumption they could borrow my car to drive to Eastern Europe and the complete indignation when I said no

[HoneyDragon]

Yes. Manners cost nothing.
SiL may not have wanted the soup but could've returned an empty receptacle and thanks.

Not been a nasty grabby indulgent cow baggage. A C-Section is an operation to take out the baby. Not your manners.

[CSIJanner]

I'll put my hands up here - I told my family the wrong date for my c-sectioned despite it being LO2. I didn't want my family to fret & LO1 was due to be in nursery that day anyway. Plus it meant that family members didn't invite themselves to the labour theatre as they did with SIL, much to her distress. But as soon as I was upstairs on maternity ward, I rang every family member personally. I didn't do it to be a cow, but for peace and TBH you have to treat both sides of family members the same.

I've never heard the salt line, but if my SIL had sent around food or cooked for me after coming home, I would had profoundly thanked you. it's a v kind thing to do. She was BU. even if she didn't want it, thank you's should have been sent and your brother could have eaten it!

[Lougle]

Why does the brother get off here? He didn't have to say 'wifey won't eat it...salt, blah blah.' He could have said 'thank you so much, that was lovely of you.'

At any rate, it's odd to send something like soup in for someone you are not on good terms with. Yes, if she's your best friend and she spent the last 10 weeks going on about the fact that all she'll want to eat is soup, but not because you've decided that soup is a good idea.

Again, with the clothes. Is the baby not your brother's child also? Could he not have given thanks on her behalf? The woman has just had major surgery (being commonplace doesn't stop it being major) and you think her main concern should be thanking you for clothes she probably hasn't even had the energy to look at. How do you know she didn't show thanks, but the message just hadn't been passed on?

[cory]

"Because when I had DD last year I had 2nd degree tears and was told NOT to bathe in salt water or anything else, plain old water only, as it might cause infection in my stitches...."

Surely those instructions refer to bath salts (which are full of perfume and all sorts), not to plain old sodium? When I had tears I was told to avoid bath salts. Perhaps that's what the SIL has been told too?

[AbigailAdams]

My thoughts exactly Lougle.

[JessieMcJessie]

Ah yes, sorry it's not the OP's DH who's the stirrer, it's her brother. Question still stands though OP, don't you think he's enabling his wife's rudeness by passing on her message and returning the soup? Easiest thing in the world for him to eat it or chuck it and give you back the thermos. Sounds like he wanted to make you feel bad too.

[Northernlurker]

Earslier than planned c-section date plus no salt makes me think pre-eclampsia and you sil has high BP which needs to come down. Home made soup is much better than shop bought for salt levels but sil may not know that.
Personally if you'd offered me chicken soup after giving birth I would probably have thrown up. No excuse at all for not saying thank you anyway.