to want to gouge my eyeballs out/pull my ears off when I see/hear this statement?

[beetrootface]

Increasingly, both in RL and on the internet, I have seen the statement 'mum always knows best' when it comes to parenting. Does anyone here really believe in this statement? Does mum always know whats best for her child?

AIBU to be really angered when someone is basically justifying potentially dangerous/harmful parenting methods by using this sort of clap trap?

I feel really angry tonight after reading on another forum about a woman who has a very very young baby (11 weeks) who is waking constantly through the night crying and she won't feed him, she just sticks a dummy in his mouth but he spits it out and starts crying again. The majority of posters are telling her just to give him a feed so they can both get some sleep, but these posters are being slated and she is gripping on to the posters who are telling her she obviously knows best because she gave birth to him.

[MurderOfGoths]

beetroot My mum did the same when I broke my wrist, she lectured me all the way to the hospital about how I "better not be putting it on"

bringupthebabies I think it is meant to be used that way, but unfortunately gets misused a lot

[BloodRedAlienReflux]

That's the worrying thing about these forums, some loons take one post as bloody gospel! give your baby whisky ffs, who would do that? but some numb skull would do it! 'well I saw it on Bounty so.....'

[CrapBag]

It completely depends on the situation. The situation in your OP, no, the mum is being lazy. In my house, mum does know best because I am a SAHM and DH works. I know the kids routine and what they like and want a bit better, DHh does tend to defer things and go with my lead in parenting. My own 'mother', no. Abusive and she disowned me at 4 years old.

Just ignore crap like this.

[blackeyedsusan]

if they throw up on the way to school/do actually have a broken wrist, it is time to do the talk about calling wolf... [evil mummy emotion]


oh and yanbu

[Booboobedoo]

What you describe in the OP is daft obviously, but I don't think the 'Happy Mum, happy baby' thing should be entirely dismissed out of hand.

I was brought up to think that all personal happiness should be eschewed for the sake of one's offsping , and actually I've had crippling PND with both of my kids, and really should have been taking more notice of my own emotional health than I actually did.

Just saying it's about balance.

[blondiedollface]

I think in the sentiment of you're the one with them all the time - for example when at my mum's and I hear the hungry cry I know best that she needs feeding, or when it's her tired cry she needs to go down for a nap whereas some people even other family members would just go 'oh she's crying, does she need feeding? has she pooped?' in those cases MUM KNOWS BEST what to do with the baby at the current time. Applying it to a medical situation, not so much!