Catgate

[SirSugar]

This rumbles on and on, so far have done the following;

asked nicely
got cross
written letters
telephoned
offered to get them a cat (they don't want one)
kept cat indoors, except for 15 mins in morning

but they are STILL feeding mine who is greedy and if I'm not on the ball during his 15 min morning run will be let into their house and not let out until I telephone to ask them to let him out.

Apparently, they used to keep a cat and for sentimental reasons they keep his bowls and 'put a little food down' which my cat nibbles on YET they have done everything they reasonably can NOT to feed my cat

[now absolutely fucking furious emoticon]

[LineRunnerCrouchingReindeer]

I would be fucked off, too. One of my cats has a really poncey diet now as a way to avoid cystitis. Cat cystitis costs a bloody fortune for the vet to treat it.

One crumb of go-cat on its lips and I'm reaching for the credit card again.

[SantasStrapon]

Well, SirSugar has already tried to discuss it reasonably on a few occasions. And has made formal verbal requests for the neighbours to stop. If they're ignoring advice recommended by the RSPCA then I'd say Police would be the next step.

[SirSugar]

SNT have taken interest, and I told them it may not be wise to go there during day as he locks his wife in whilst out at work. They will be in touch

[SirSugar]

And I said she doesn't answer door

[SantasStrapon]

What is SNT please?

[SirSugar]

Safer neighbourhood team

[ViviPrudolf]

Another thread, another instance of me wishing I had a mini kungfupannda permanently in my pocket to dispense sage advice on tap.

[limitedperiodonly]

The police Safer Neighbourhoods Team strapon. Mine are my heroes.

[fergoose]

Do you think they may take any action about him locking his wife in - it is worth you calling the police about that issue alone? I worry for his wife now to be honest.

[SirSugar]

cat is in fact pedigree and micro chipped so I have all its paperwork

would be willing to bet man has sent his wife crazy

[SantasStrapon]

Ahh good plan, SirSugar :)

[ViviPrudolf]

This is starting to sound potentially like a massive can of worms, OP. Hope it all ends well for you.

[SirSugar]

Am seeing how it unfolds, She only ever goes out when he takes her, is known to be strange. i told him his wife is probably lonely and offered to get cat, he refused saying they are too old for cats.

She may be 'nutty' but he is frankly nasty and thinks he knows best. Never thought of her like that.

Anyway have told SNT I think shes locked in

[SnapesMistressofMerriment]

Hmm, maybe community support officer as well aboutt he locking his wife in. What if there was a fire? He would come home to no house and no wife. :(

[aStarOverMangerways]

In the meantime, put a scrawly note under the cat's collar: LEAVE ME ALONE YOU STINKY WEIRDOS.

[JamieComeHome]

I know someone who works on Strictly. Shall I ask him to get "Head Judge" Len Goodman to write a stern letter?

[NoOnesGoingToEatYourMincePies]

Vivi - colleague is bonkers but we like her. Our biggest concern is that the cat had fleas and now colleague has them in her home. She is covered in bites but won't accept it's from the cat. We suspect cat's owners are treating the cat and probably their house but then bonkers colleague is allowing re-infestation because she won't treat her home.

OP I hope the SNT can get things sorted out for you.

[JamieComeHome]

If he locks his wife in then there's something up. I wonder if she has mental health problems or dementia. This is potentially one for Social Services as it could be classed as elder abuse (they are old?)

[cakeismysaviour]

SNT sounds like a good move, if that fails then kungfupannda's advice is spot on.

[SirSugar]

they are in their sixties

[JamieComeHome]

Locking someone in could be classed as abusive. He may be doing it to stop her wandering, if she has dementia, in which case she's potentially not safe at home, and they need SS involvement. Or he's abusing her. Hope SNT can get to the bottom of this

[fergoose]

I think you and your DP should go round there together - be a witness incase this neighbour tries to make allegations that you say threatened him (not that you would but I think you need to cover your backs as they sound clearly unhinged)

Do this couple have any children or family who visit - could you have a word with them if they do?

[learningtofly]

I too was going to suggest SS too - they should have a vulnerable adults safeguarding team. Even if he is locking the door to protect her from wandering it is still a situation which needs someone professional offering support and assessment.

[SirSugar]

Have been keeping thorough records anyway, sent three formal letters ( I have one crazy letter from her where she talks about her education and says my cat will be well looked after if iit comes over to their house and should I not wish to feed it it would be best that I let someone else. Signed , your loving neighbour, Mrs X ). Also kept records of telephone conversations

Never had any contact with them in twelve years of living here until now. Not worried about any accusations they try to bring.

When he first approached me he said he thought it may be a stray cat. Will post a pic on profile.

[CinnabarRed]

Take a photo of your cat at your neighbours' window miaowing to get out - make sure it's very obviously their house, include their house name/number if you can - and run up hundreds of "Lost. Reward if found" posters all over your neighbourhood.