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... to think it's rude to ask for cash as a birthday gift?

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shubiedoo · 25/10/2011 20:49

Ds1 is invited to a classmate's party on Friday, and I asked the mum what he was into, seeing what sort of gift he'd like. I often buy gifts in sales and put them aside for parties in case I don't have much time to shop, books or small Lego sets etc. She actually said, "oh a gift card would be great", and named several shops!
Of course that is the easiest option, and I see where she's coming from. But now I have to actually spend a certain amount and I feel slightly annoyed. What do you think?

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shubiedoo · 25/10/2011 21:10

... but no, I would never judge anyone by how much they spent, it's not important. Not everyone feels that way though!

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Kayano · 25/10/2011 21:11

Still... YABU.
Asked, told, end of IMO

You know for next time

shubiedoo · 25/10/2011 21:13

As it happens I don't have a big stash right now so I would have bought something, yes. I would never request a gift card from anyone, I would say "oh anything is fine"! Then re-gift any crap toys at another party [hgrin]

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 25/10/2011 21:38

Maybe she got a re gifted crap present last year. Grin

shubiedoo · 25/10/2011 21:49

Ha, yes!

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WailyWailyWaily · 25/10/2011 21:49

I think that YABU, I would suggest cash or gift card if anyone asked me for gift ideas for DS who is 11. BUT I would not expect them to give anymore than £5.

vess · 25/10/2011 22:23

Don't get it - why do you ask if you already have a gift? It's not like she asked for something expensive - a gift card will save you money and trouble. And it will be appreciated, unlike a recycled present from the last party your dc has been to.

Fixture · 25/10/2011 23:24

YANBU. Gift cards are too similar to money - they are an amount that you spend. It's much nicer to allow the giver to keep the price of the present a secret.

mercibucket · 25/10/2011 23:32

oh the dreaded 'bargain' present - I breathed a huge sigh of relief when we aLl gave up on presents at school parties and moved on to cash n card instead - or indeed just card - but please no more cheapo presents - 10 or more of them starts to fill a house! Bet mum of birthday boy feels the same
You asked, she told you, probably more polite to just say 'oh no present needed' but hey

mercibucket · 25/10/2011 23:33

oh the dreaded 'bargain' present - I breathed a huge sigh of relief when we aLl gave up on presents at school parties and moved on to cash n card instead - or indeed just card - but please no more cheapo presents - 10 or more of them starts to fill a house! Bet mum of birthday boy feels the same
You asked, she told you, probably more polite to just say 'oh no present needed' but hey

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