To kick off at DH about this disgusting thing he does?

[BupcakesandHaunting]

I cook, he washes up.

We've got one of those food-catcher thingies in the plughole of the sink. Since DH doesn't scrape all of the debris off the plates before plunging them into the sink, there is always a lot of food floating in the water (that in itself is a vomitty thing) then he pulls the food catcher plug thing out just enough to let the water out but so that all the food debris catches in it (suppose that's what it's for)

Then he just waltzes out of the kitchen and leaves all of the food (bits of soggy onion/pepper/pasta/rice/whatever) lurking in the sink. It makes me feel really, really queasy. Yeah, I know I'm pathetic.

I just had a bit of a benny about it. I ask him every night of he can get rid of the food mulch and he never bloody does it. Please don't say that I should be grateful that he's washing-up in the first place. He's doing half a job. I don't agree to cook dinner, then assemble a half-cooked dinner on his plate.

[CardyMow]

Leave the bastard - it's the only way I cured this disgusting habit. There is one downside to taking that course of action though - you then have to do the washing up EVERY bloody night, for ever more. On second thoughts - don't leave the bastard!!





Your DH is GRIM! It's almost criminal to leave grotty bits of food in the sink in any way.

[halcyondays]

My Dh couldn't see why we needed one of those food catcher things, of course this was because he just left food to fester in the plughole until I came along and fished it out.

[nomoreheels]

DP runs a sink of hot (ish) soapy water & swizzes the dishes through. Greasy pans are still pretty greasy in the morning and I have to re-do them.

We fundamentally disagree on washing up technique. I do not get the sometimes British way of hand washing dishes in soapy water without rinsing, a technique he refuses to.budge on. Until we have a house with 2 sinks, I will wash & scour everything, drain & then run more very hot water to rinse.

[brdgrl]

Dh does it and has taught the childrens to do it, too.

I am going to try thisisyesterday's suggestion, tomorrow.

[omaoma]

yes this is the epitome of gross. i have had to go through aversion therapy and can now clean the stinky gunk out myself but not very often.

the only thing that works for me and DH in dealing with bad habits is for me to give him the opportunity to ask ME to stop doing one thing that drives him mad, and ask for one of my bugbears in return. it's always something really bizarre and tiny from my point of view (not moving the tea towel from the hook by the sink to the cooker handle was the last one).

at the very least this strategy makes me less insanely angry about my ishoos with the few bits of his behaviour that aren't wonderful, even if it doesn't end the bad habits, not sure why

[BertieBotts]

Although to be fair I get more annoyed that DP doesn't bother to use the food trap at all, so the food gets stuck in the u-bend and makes the drain smell.

[BertieBotts]

You're not even being picky though! That is a perfectly reasonable request.

[WestYorkshirePudding]

I'm just happy that we're not the only family without a dishwasher!

My friends think I'm very weird to actually not be bothered about this

[BupcakesandHaunting]

Oh god a food waste caddy would tip me over the edge, I'm afraid. My friend has one and I dread visiting her in case I am asked to touch the FWC :(

[Alibabaandthe80nappies]

DH does this, it drives me MAD.

He has done the clearing up this evening and I bet that if I go into the kitchen now there will a little collection of bits of pork and cabbage and potato in the sink-catcher thing. Bleugh.

[Mandy2003]

I don't have a food trap as I scrape plates and saucepans obsessively well. But I do have the food waste caddy next to the sink so if I had a food trap the contents could easily be tipped in there, I imagine. Do you have space for a caddy and a sign advising of its use?

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

Oh yes, I leave long hair everywhere too.

My mum complains when I go to visit that she is pulling my hair out of plugs for weeks. I think she's exaggerating.

[EggyAllenPoe]

mal i didn't type fast enough :)

[EggyAllenPoe]

apparently, after i have a bath, my hair blocks the plug up. i always clean the bath...but never the plug. I have never observed this phenomena (ie, the steggy non-draining hair and steg entwined bath drainer)

according to certain people in this household, that is very disgusting.

certain people in this household also leave the meat-fat slop-covered fly-attracting dog food bowl in the sink not washed up and placed on the draining board.

according to me that is disgusting. i have never seen the other thing.

[Malificence]

I do that.
DH cleans out the weird pluggy thing we have in the bathroom sink and leaves it on the side in disgust, it's always full of slimy hair (mine).
He also inspects the dishes when he takes them out of the cupboard for dried on food remains, I swish them around in the sink before half heartedly approaching them with a scourer.

I am a slattern.

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

Yup. My husband does this too. When I discover it I yell at him "come and scrape the food gunk out of the sink" - and he does.

Seems to work.

My personal annoyance is the way he puts any rubbish onto the side by the sink with the dirty dishes, rather than walk the two feet across the kitchen to put it in the bin. I haven't cracked that one yet.

I'm not perfect though. I'm incapable of closing cupboard doors. Doesn't matter how many times he tells me, I just don't do it.

[pigletmania]

I thought you were going to say, and he eats it, now that would be

[Pudding2be]

It could be worse, he could not wash them properly then use a tea towel to wipe them with

We bought a dishwasher, we got sick of the arguments in the end

[GarrottingItLaldy]

YABU

At least he knows what the food trap is for, even if he doesn't empty it. 9 fucking years we've had a sink (actually 2 sinks) with a food trap and DP has never grasped the bastarding concept which menas I spend an inordinate amount of time poking assorted food waste out of the cunting plughole(s).

But it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Obviously.

[UKSky]

Get an Insinkerator - solves this problem completely

[TattyDevine]

Right Bupcakes there is a cure, there is help available, for your phobia.

Its called exposure therapy.

So people who are scared of spiders are supposed to handle spiders and stroke spiders and have a bath with spiders and shit to get over their phobia. Evidence based, very effective.

So you have to get the soggy peppers and slimy slivers of mushroom and garlic skins and tomato seeds from the pluggy thing and eat them.

This will be so gross that when you next see them you will just be glad you don't have to eat them.

And will be cured.

Let us know how you get on

hth x (((hugz hun etc))))

[SazZaVoom]

Yes, i know Bupcakes. AND he thinks he could go on Masterchef .

Greg would surely throw him out for that??