to think "not suffering fools" isn't necessarily a positive attribute to have?

[Moulesfrites]

I find myself caught in the middle of a dispute between my sister and my mum atm, because my mum has decided to tel my sister that she thinks her boyfriend is rude and miserable. My sister is devastated and I really feel for her and she has been in tears talking to me about it, but at the smae time, I actually totally agree with my mum. He is rude and I have bitten my tongue on so many occasions when he has been around.

My dsis and her bf live in London and usually stay at my parents when they come up to visit but have also stayed with dh and I. They are made very welcome. They don't have a lot of money so my parents ensure they don't have to pay for anything when they are there. But the bf makes continuous disparaging remarks about the area of the country where we live (North East) and how it isn't as good as London. My mum thinks it is a bit off to come and stay at her house, eat all her food and slag off her area.

This weekend he took part in the Great North Run but was completely miserable the day before and after the run. Afterwards we went back to my parents house and he lay on the sofa, with his trainers on, said that he was entitled to watch hat he wanted all afternoon as he has just done a half marathon, so put the football on and played with my dad's ipad as if it was his own. He is 26 years old . His disparaging comments just kept on coming and eventually my mum told my sister (not him) exactly what she thought of him. I agree with her, but am not sure it was the right thing to say something to my sister as she loves him and clearly he makes her happy.

My sister has spoken to me about it and says that we just need to understand that her bf is "sarcastic, cynical and doesn't suffer fools" which I was a bit at as it seemed to imply that he thinks my family are stupid. Surely even if he did think we were foolish he should just keep quiet seeing as he is taking advantage of our hospitality? AS it is he is very argumentative and contrary, always looking for a debate so that he can demean the rest of us.

Any tips on how to move on from this or how to deal with him in future?

[MangoMonster]

You'll have to brush up the techniques offered below!

[Moulesfrites]

no, he does have his own job at least VFVF. He works for a charity and is very worthy and do-goodery about it all. Ironic then that he can't be polite and civil to his gf's family.

[HipHopOpotomus]

Quick - ask them what b&b/hotel they have booked for Christmas. It else start composing your "my Ds's BF ruined our family Christmas" thread now!!!

Perhaps you can say, following on from your recent stay, I think everyone will be much happier, BF included, if you stay in hotel.

[scattermummy]

What about
"I'm not being funny,but"

[Hullygully]

Um.

he is an absolute insufferable arse.

Good for your mum for speaking up

[HerHissyness]

Moules, we are going to have to call upon the almighty power of Mumsnet, to coach you into being able to being able to dispatch this numpty with a flea in his ear.

Your DH is well up for it!

Bugger your sister's tears - tbh, I think this guy has such immense entitlement, I reckon he's ripe for being a controlling abuser in time... if not already. You will be doing her a favour!

Agree on the B&B too, nobody comes into your mums house and calls the family FOOLS and stays under your roof!

Zero tolerance on this tosser.