DD lives with me. She goes to a dance class every Saturday. I normally take her every week and pay for the class (£6.50, pay as you go). Yesterday I had a dental appointment overlapping the dance class start time and asked my STBXH to take her. I gave him £20 to pay for the dance class when I dropped her off at his (he lives quite near us).
When I picked her up from the dance class I asked DD (almost 9) where the change was - she said her dad had kept it. I texted him and asked him to drop it off. He kept £3.50 change back on another week last month so I asked him to drop off the £17.00.
He has just been round with it and was evidently not pleased to be asked to bring it round. I told him that he clearly does not realise how tight my finances are and he made a comment about his being tight too. I told him that he can always do something about that (ie try to get a job - he has been unemployed on and off for several years, currently been nearly three years since he last worked). He then walked off angrily saying I was "just in one of my moods".
He pays £zero child support (not even the £5 as he has DD one night a week). Since he left the hosue over 3 years ago I have paid the joint mortgage and all other joint financial commitments in full.
I work F/T (earn too much to be eligible for any benefits) and pay for Childminder for after school care as STBXH won't look after DD on any days except his contact days. Even on his contact days he sometimes pulls out at last minute and asks me to get CM to pick DD up from school (for which I have to pay).
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Meikyo · 18/09/2011 13:50
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