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AIBU?

To HATE the beach and everthing that goes with it dh thinks i have issues!

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mosschops30 · 27/08/2011 21:37

i went to his watersports comp today, last time i went i was pg and hated it. Went today with the dcs and still hated ir.
I hate being cold, i hate it being windy, i dislike those women who sit in groups with their kids with their windbreakers/white stuff clothes/tousled hair/surfy jumpers and how they dont mind being there and their dcs play happily. I hate the feel of sand, i hate feeling dirty, i do not want to sleep in a bloody tent when i have a house, im not 5 its not fun!

Dh thinks i am too uptight and that i cant relax, and i think he has a point, i mean i could cope with the beach if it was in front of a 5* spa resort with a sun lounger and parasol. I like hotels, i like shopping, i like lunches and coffees and spas.

So aibu for not liking the other stuff? Is dh right? Am i an uptight freak who just cant chill? Or is anyone else like this?
(oh and im not slagging people off who do like this stuff, i just dont)

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Fluter · 30/08/2011 09:05

Nope, I dislike beaches too. About 90% of the time. I can cope with a winter walk along one (especially the one in North Norfolk on New Year's Day when a group of people with a beach hut were accosting all passers-by with mulled wine and scones), but too, too many childhood holidays with salt water on very sensitive skin, sand in the sandwiches, hair, drinks, mouth, ears, eyes, and icy winds blowing in off the North Sea, combined with the donkey bolting with me on board at the age of about 3 (didn't stop me learning to ride, mind!), the lugging half a tonne of equipment / towels to the beach and back..... urggghhhhhh no thanks.

Don't even get me started on camping...

GalaxyWeaver · 29/08/2011 21:28

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Ripeberry · 29/08/2011 20:20

Do you have the means to go to spas and 5* hotels? If not then camping it is

Doilooklikeatourist · 29/08/2011 20:16

So mosschops, will I be seeing you on the beach in Tenby for the Wales iron man tournament on sept 11 ?
Might go and watch the mad fools happy competitors , if I sponsor them it means I don't have to take part ( shudders)

SilkStalkings · 29/08/2011 19:14

My DH is in a band, they play great music at least once a month, I get on with the band & WAGs but I don't want to go to every gig (esp the daytime ones that involve me trying to keep my toddler in his pushchair). I don't particularly like loud, live music.
So no YANBU to refuse to 'follow the drum.'

diddl · 29/08/2011 07:16

"i told him he can go windsurfing/sleeping in his van whenever he likes but he is to never EVER ask me again to go because im not."

Soundds like an Australian teen soap

Why does he want you there?

Because the other wives are?

Not something I´d want to do & I wouldn´t expect someone not participating in the sport to be interested either tbh.

exoticfruits · 28/08/2011 19:16

I love the beach-especially out of season. However I should compromise-go -but not in a tent.

DancesWithWolefCubs · 28/08/2011 19:07

I love the beach and don't live too far from miles and miles of practically deserted sandy beaches. It's beautiful there all year round. But I hate the sea. Nothing, short of something horrifying like the DDs in trouble in it, would get me to go in the sea. Things live in it, things die in it, things copulate in it.

mosschops30 · 28/08/2011 19:03

But cat64 i agree, however ALL the other wives/gfs go and seem perfectly happy, i think dh is secretly a bit pissed off that i dont make an effort.
We had a row when he got home today and i told him he can go windsurfing/sleeping in his van whenever he likes but he is to never EVER ask me again to go because im not.

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diddl · 28/08/2011 16:01

I would say YABU to not like the beach-as in at all.

But what you are/were doing sounds awful to me.

Watching watersports all day(?) sleeping over & more sports watching the next day?

Sounds awful.

Acekicker · 28/08/2011 15:54

YANBU - I have gritted (literally!) my teeth through the occasional (once or twice a year) beach sessions for the last few years because I felt DS (now 6) 'ought' to play on the beach. This year we offered to take him when we were on holiday (we'd been at the pool all day every day) and he declined saying he didn't like sand .

The best 'beach' I know is the one at a hotel in Malta I stay at quite regularly - it's a concrete patio (over rocks, v few sandy beaches in Malta and most of them are heaving with people all the time) and then some steps down into the sea!

SilkStalkings · 28/08/2011 14:21

My DD(8) says she hates the beach and is really pretending that she enjoys herself. In truth, there is no way she could fake the fact that the only time she really lets go and has fun is by the sea! She is quite an anxious child and I can see it all stacking up in her head beforehand - the sand, the cold, all the things people have listed below. So we take her on 'medicinal' beach trips anyway, because it is so nice to see her leaping about in the shallows, flashing her dimple that we see so rarely. She will flatly deny all this on the way home because all she can think about is that she's had to abandon her knickers or something.

halcyondays · 28/08/2011 10:07

I love the beach, if it's a bit chilly I just wrap up. I hate really hot weather though so I'm not a fan of beach holidays in hot places. It's my dh that isn't too keen on the beach and will come up with excuses not to go, too hot, too cold, it might rain etc.

Have always loved the beach, it's so relaxing and even with young kids it's still one of the easiest options, they seem to behave better on the beach and will happily play with the sand for ages, have a paddle and look for shells.

mathanxiety · 28/08/2011 05:30

The thing you should do is parlay your forced trip to the beach into earning yourself the sort of day out you crave, with the coffee and the shopping and the spa. Do it for the sake of the children and the DH, smile and try to make the best of it and don't be such a wet blanket, then extract what you want for yourself afterwards. Give and take and all that.

Grew up near a beach and love them.

NorfolkBroad · 28/08/2011 00:41

I love the beach but i get what asec means by being freaked by the vastness of the sea!

Camping though! UGH! I find it really exhausting, and usually wet and cold.

floweryblue · 27/08/2011 23:02

Just give up and give in, don't forget your jumper, take a windshield tent (DP or DC can carry it), book and wine, you'll soon see it's not SO bad. The 'White Stuff women' are probably used to organising the family for the beach and they know the secrets. The one I learnt a few years ago was: Children are there to carry stuff and give you an excuse to bring as many home comforts as possible.

Hulababy · 27/08/2011 22:59

Oh - and I was ust the same on our day trip to the beach in Florida on a lovely white beach with baking hot sea. 3 hours was my maximum. I was hot and uncomfortable and desperate to go. DH and DD loved being in the sea though, although as penance DH did come out burnt!

cinnamonswirls · 27/08/2011 22:58

Oops read op again think am on wrong track will go back to sipping dacquiri on tropical beach!

Hulababy · 27/08/2011 22:57

I don't like beaches even in so called lovely spots. I don't like sand and I am not keen on the sea. I can't do the full sun and really hot weather so have to be under a shade of some form, and would eed some form of seat as can never get comfy on the sand with just a towel.

9y DD loves the sea but hates being on the beach after and getting sand stuck to her skin. DH likes the beach and sand for the odd day. Luckily we never have to do beach type holidays - would be my idea of hell, lol!

Dh thinks I am grumpy for not enjoying a day on the beach but I can maybe do 2 or 3 hours or so and then I want to go.

eurochick · 27/08/2011 22:53

Beach Good

Camping Bad

Can you not just go for the day and have a nice shower at home (or in a hotel?) at the end of it?

cinnamonswirls · 27/08/2011 22:53

Watersports comp? S coast Cornwall by any chance? Nationals? If one I think it might be YA DEF NBU

Don't worry not hatred of beach just of crazy stressful comp

If a different comp then guess same rule applies child comps are stressful and full of mad parents - you are def NBU to hate beach comps in cold and wet but will like the beach again when can take it .... or leave it!

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iklboo · 27/08/2011 22:51

I really do not like the beach. Well, sand in particular. I LOVE the sea, just not sand. When my parents first took me to a beach I apparently screamed the sky down. Or a lot anyway. Beaches are dead mountains

TrillianAstra · 27/08/2011 22:48

hot beaches with the sea that's warm like bathwater and turquoise, with someone near by to bring you cocktails - THAT's proper beach.

I'll join you on that beach Abs!

schroeder · 27/08/2011 22:46

I love the beach (except forrin beaches wiv loads of people) But it's better with less people, so next time just don't go.

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