AIBU to think this is yobbish and disgusting behaviour by my DH's mate?

[Irishchic]

My dh went on an overnight stay to a city near us for a lads night out. They were all going to watch a band play, outdoor concert and then on to a pub or club. I know all the guys he was with, they were all in school together, they are all 42 or thereabouts and either married or in permanent relationships.

When they eventually left the club and walked back to their hotel, (for more drinking) one of dh's mates could contain himself and peed in a shop delivery entrance. I think this is disgusting. I could accept it if he was really desperate and went down an alleyway to do it against a wall, still yuk, but not anywhere near as bad as doing it in a shop doorway!)

My husband thinks this is hilarious. He and another friend stood guard for the peeing mate. I think this is nearly as bad as the deed itself and i am a bit pissed off with him for being part of this and thinking its all a laugh. Its yobbish and antisocial - or AIBU?

[ChippingIn]

pippi - so, if you had a shop you would be find with all and sundry pissing in your doorway would you?

[pippilongsmurfing]

FFS, hardly the end of the world is it?

[Irishchic]

well i think it is disgusting too. Am a bit taken aback by my dh finding it so funny. Hard to respect someone who finds that behaviour funny.

[Thumbwitch]

Pisses me off - I went out with a bunch of friends once, I was driving so wasn't drinking - anyway, came out to find one of the friends of friends pissing against my car's bumper! I was hopping mad, and it stained the plastic as well!

It is disgusting, wouldn't kill them to find somewhere out of the way, not directly where people have to walk next day and smell the disgusting stink of rancid piss.

[ZillionChocolate]

Yuck. As is men spitting in the street.

[ChippingIn]

Revolting behaviour from a grown man. I'm not against the odd Alfresco Wee when nature calls and you're caught short - but never in a doorway - that's just vile. As for your DH finding it funny - I can't imagine being with a 42 yo man who thinks it's funny ... I wonder what the rest of the story is??

[Irishchic]

pictish - Maybe you are right and i should just forget it. Maybe you had to be there. I do know though that my dh would take a very very dim view if the shoe were on the other foot, (though I would probably know better than to tell him!)

Worraliberty - knowing my dh its probably the former scenario!

Earlyears -all too true for men it seems!

Pancake - You are right, i did pull a cat's bum face and thereby missed the opportunity of hearing the full juicy details of the story. I shall get my dh drunk one of these nights and extract the truth, and shall duly update you the details..(I hope they are worth the wait!!) Watch this Space!!

[pinkyredrose]

Coulda been worse, if that's the best they can come up with on a night out then I'd relax x

[Pancakeflipper]

I bet your DP was laughing at the part of the story that he now won't tell you. Not the tiddle in a doorway. Bah. You pulled a cats bum face didn't you OP? And now we'll never know the real interesting part of the night. Bah...

But if he weakens and tells us, pass the gossip onto us won't you? ...I have no life...

[EarlyyearsChildcare]

My friend had cystitis and had to wee in the street. She hid between a parked white van and bushes. As she was midflow having drank about three pints of water, the van pulled off and tooted its horn very loudly. I have to admit it was hilarious and she was laughing so much she weed on her shoes and stank of piss for the whole day. It was day time too. Sometimes as disgusting as it is, when you have to go, you have to go and it is quite funny in a silly school girl way.

[worraliberty]

I suspect the rest of the story was your DH then pissed in said doorway...turned around to answer a question and pissed on his mate's shoes

Either that or there really was some extra marital shagging

[pictish]

Oh look - just move on. You weren't there, it wasn't your night out, and I am surprised that you give so much of a toss about what they all got up to.

When, on the odd occasion my dh goes out with his mates, I only want to know if he had a good night. The details are of no interest to me.

It's onbiously a location joke...as in you had to be there. Drop it now.

[Ilikepinkwine]

Irishchic, I bet you can get the rest of the story out of him if you try. I'm intrigued...
BTW I also think peeing in doorways is a bit gross, someone has to wash it down in the morning.

[Irishchic]

Sofabitch - Maybe. When we chatted tonight at dinner he agreed that is was a bit skanky, but said mate was "caught short."

But I overheard him on the phone saying to one og the lads that "I told Irishchic about Joe pissing in the doorway and she was disgusted so best not tell her the rest of the story!"



But I cant bring this up now or he will think I was spying. But its really annoying me that i dont know the full story, and i guess that my dh plays quite a part in it!

Queefer- It came into conversation cos he got home this afternoon and made a bit deal about telling me this hilarious story about how one of his mates had to piss in a doorway and that he (dh) and another guy had to keepcover for him in case the cops came by...he was in fits of laughter about it.

[QueeferSutherland]

Christ, rogue apostrophes.

[QueeferSutherland]

How did you even get into the conversation?

Did your DH just mention it in passing? How would this nugget of info even make it's way into everyday discourse?

If my DH saw fit to divulge his mates pee-pee habits, I'd ignore him tbh. I certainly wouldn't rant about it on the internet.

[Sofabitch]

Are you sure it's not one of those seemed funny at the time type things ? Or that he's not hideously embarrassed so he is trying to laugh it off?

[Irishchic]

I swear to God if I came home from a girls night away and recounted a "hilarious" story about how one one the girls hitched up her knickers and peed in a doorway my dh would be so, soooo, unamused and unimpressed by such unladylike behaviour.

[Irishchic]

MadamD - Qui est Deathcat, a man or a cat??

[Irishchic]

Btw the answers here seem pretty divided, so obviously to some people, inc me, this is shitty behaviour and to others it is nothing to worry about.

Different strokes i guess..

[Irishchic]

Sofabitch - God only knows.

But if you havent done it since you were 16 then maybe that is an indication that it is pretty immature behaviour for a 42 year old man...

[Sofabitch]

I haven't pissed in a doorway whilst drunk since I was 16

If you freak out this much over pissing. Imagine what he's too scared to tell you.