I am 37 weeks with my first, and DP and me live with my mum. She was initially very excited about us having a baby, but won't make any effort to help out.
She has always been messy but it's really beginning to worry me now. Her bedroom and the spare room (which we had hoped would be a nursery) are in a complete mess. There are piles of junk on every surface, you can't see the floor and she never hoovers or dusts or cleans in there, EVER. I have been trying to get her to cooperate for the past six months, and I'd happily clean it all up myself but she freaks out if you touch anything and says I can't tell her what to do in her own house.
I appreciate that it is her house, but she has said all along that she would rather have us here than for us to pay a stranger extortionate rent, and we do contribute.
While me and DP do our best to keep all the other parts of the house clean, I'm really concerned about bringing a newborn into this environment as I'm sure all that dust and mustiness isn't healthy, even if we don't go into those rooms. Although, I'm not sure how serious the health risks are?
Being all hormonal and that, I've had a few emotional outbursts about it, so... now my mum thinks she's normal, and I'm being hysterical.
I also find it quite upsetting that she is not getting excited about the baby. My MIL and SIL have done absolutely loads to help and are really supportive and it makes me think there's something really up with my mum?!
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trailsongs · 18/07/2011 21:38
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