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to think a lot of posters here believe the ONLY reason they are in a well paid is because they worked so much harder than anyone else and good luck and favourable circumstances had NO BEARING AT ALL

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ssd · 10/07/2011 19:45

GOD there are some amount of smug posters here who seem to believe they are so far above the rest of us lowly workers, they can't stop telling us how hard they have worked, how academic they are etc etc and if you're not, well really you probably claim benefits and expect the system to help you out with your crap paid job

well guess what folks, some of us are in crap paid jobs due to unforeseen life events, not because we spent years at school studying and trying hard so we could earn minimum wage and be lectured to by people who don't have to compromise all their bloody lives

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Peachy · 12/07/2011 07:18

I ws born 1973 (graduated 2008 though- does that out me in a rare place? no thoyght nt LOL)

My rroom ws crinoline ladies then jungle for my sister's nursery which I managed to inheir (yuck) until I went on a school trip to Poole in 1984 and came back to one where the opposite walls were red with white hearts (and curtains matched), and the other walls in a bright geo floral design; I bloody loved it!

I am presuming BTW that a fari few legal bods lost work when the IAS went into administration yesterday? Poor sods.

I know within my own sector it is harder now than I have ever experienced; charities are struggling and the equivalent public service is also. So people with skills that are needed and technically in short suppy (like my MA ASD) are still finding it ahrd to get work. I also know from watching DH's crows at university that I am glad I did my degree even a few years back; many of my cohort might still be in their university jobs looking for a break but at least they ahve that- so many of DH's can;t even get work (becuase of that bottleneck jam) to supplement their student incomes (his city has 3 universities which probably does not help!) and my Tutor tells me that far more students are dropping ut now than ever for financial reasons. They used to get many jobs through the university jobshop but even that is now pretty inactive.

SH's field was also supposed to be a shortgae and that's had amssive cuts becuase it's non essential expenditure for many. He's lucky to have had some self employed work on the simmer for a while. I suspect many of his friends will regret their degree which is a shame becuase I do value study for it's own sake, even if that's not a very practical outlook. Probably reflects my background (estates girl,me).

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proudfoot · 12/07/2011 02:17

You can have exactly the same qualifications, have worked just as hard as someone else, overcome the same hardships - but at the end of the day, the interviewer for your star job is going to pick the person they like better - and if that's you, then there is the luck element. You had the luck of fitting better into the "structure" of the company/business. And it doesn't mean that you are nicer, kinder or anything like that - just that YOUR personality fits better than the other, equally qualified and hard-working, candidate.

This is true. However, most jobs are not just one offs and the way to overcome this luck element is to put in enough applications. If you're invited to interview, chances are you're "good enough" so you will also be invited to interview for other similar roles and will eventually be hired. If not, then you might start asking questions about whether it's just bad luck or if it could be down to interview technique. (I'm looking at this from a graduate scheme perspective and I accept that higher up the chain there will be fewer openings available at the same time)

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ThumbsNoseAtSnapewitch · 12/07/2011 01:23

Gonig back to tether's point about some people getting the luck and some not when they have the same background (ok, heavily paraphrased and I hope what she actually meant) - I think that character and personality play a big part too. Not just your own either - but those of the people employing you.

You can have exactly the same qualifications, have worked just as hard as someone else, overcome the same hardships - but at the end of the day, the interviewer for your star job is going to pick the person they like better - and if that's you, then there is the luck element. You had the luck of fitting better into the "structure" of the company/business. And it doesn't mean that you are nicer, kinder or anything like that - just that YOUR personality fits better than the other, equally qualified and hard-working, candidate.

And there is really nothing you can do about that - you can't pick your interviewers, you can't know ahead of time what the other candidates are going to be like, you can't know exactly what the workforce environment is like - so it's luck whether you fit it better than the others.

Once you're there of course, it's up to hard work etc. to make sure you stay there and advance - but only when the company remains stable and the economy remains active - external factors there also can create massive change.

I used to work for a lady whose DH had his own distribution business. It was going very well, nice turnover - and then the 9/11 disaster happened, causing markets to go haywire, banks tightened up and started calling in loans etc. - this caused him to go bankrupt, which then adversely affected all the comapnies to whom he owed money for their goods - it was a shit situation and he wasn't the only one in it by any stretch of the imagination - but all the hard work in the world couldn't haul him out of that situation. He has since turned things around BECAUSE he works hard - but he couldn't save that company.

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proudfoot · 11/07/2011 23:11

I graduated in 2008.

Re: law students being "laid off", I'm not sure what you mean. You can't be laid off within 1-2 years of being taken on unless you have done something very seriously wrong, as the training contract is a fixed 2 year period. Do you mean they haven't been kept on at NQ level or they have been made redundant at 1 or 2 years PQE? If the former that is quite tough as the NQ market is pretty saturated, but it really is a minority who are let go at this stage and if they are good they will find a role before too long. If you mean 1 or 2 PQE lawyers, there are plenty of options for them and if they have been made redundant they at least get some kind of redudancy package...

If grads are earning just over 21k, the repayments will be so small that they will barely even be noticeable. If earning 22k, a repayment of 9% of the 1k over the threshold, i.e. 90 quid a year, is nothing. If they earn 25k, they will be paying back 390 a year. I honestly don't believe that grads would need parental help with that.

Are you not basically saying that it's all been relatively easy for you, therefore any future graduates who face troubles presumably do so because they are not as wise and talented as you are?

No, not at all. I did not require any wisdom to manage my student finances. I just needed to realise that I wouldn't be able to afford anything fancy until I got a decent graduate job and that I would have to do some part-time work in term time and work throughout the holidays. Those who are entitled to full maintenance grants may even be able to get by without any or much part-time work in term time.

I don't think the figure of 9k is ideal but IMO that is a separate issue to the question of finance while AT university. The situation with regard to that has improved and means students will be better off. Most of the academics I know agree with me on that and they do have to talk about this stuff at open days (even though they should be talking about the course) because there is so much confusion and people don't understand it.

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allegrageller · 11/07/2011 22:38

and by the way (duh) at open days and interviews, we are all concerned to engage students with the course. That's what we are there for. We are not there to discuss the appalling political situation and economic climate with them. Or, indeed, their finances. The registry does that.

Incidentally I don't know a single academic from ANY institution or subject who doesn't think that the situation for students has worsened significantly since the £9k fees were introduced. And it is fairly common knowledge that graduates post-banking crisis face unprecedented challenges. Youth unemployment is the highest it has ever been, remember?

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allegrageller · 11/07/2011 22:32

well of course I bloody do, proudfoot. What a thing to say.

The campus I worked on was based in a low-income area and is now being CLOSED entirely because of the £9k fee issue. 'Widening participation' is a bit of a joke when universities try to rearrange themselves into 'premium brands' I was admissions tutor and broke my back trying to engage students from lower-income areas with the university. So please do not lecture me on 'inclusiveness'.

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allegrageller · 11/07/2011 22:30

I'm saying that entirely because I've worked with students for 7 years now (I was the careers advisor in my previous post) and have clearly seen students on low incomes suffering. The current economic climate for graduates is simply shocking. The proper downturn started in 2008/9, presumably after you graduated? I am seeing very talented law students, for instance, return to us asking for part-time teaching because they have been laid off by solicitor's firms within 1-2 years of being taken on.

I presume you know that the post-2012 intake will probably take a few decades longer than you to clear debt? (Unless you really managed to clock up a fortune). If you think that will not put off those who can expect no help from family at all post-graduation, or will be earning wages at the lower graduate end (but over £21k), I think you are being idealistic. 'A mental barrier due to rubbish people spout'- like who, the entire UK academic sector who are calling the £9k plan completely bonkers? And not merely because of Willetts' naive assumption that the universities would arrange themselves neatly into a perfect market. You cannot charge £9k and expect those who already feel financially insecure not to be the most affected.

Are you not basically saying that it's all been relatively easy for you, therefore any future graduates who face troubles presumably do so because they are not as wise and talented as you are? Forgive me if I have you wrong. The internet is a blunt instrument after all.

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proudfoot · 11/07/2011 22:25

Also if you are a lecturer and if you have anything to do with open days I hope you do try to encourage prospective students from lower income families and inform them of all the financial help they ARE entitled to. What a real shame if the attitude you are showing here comes across and puts off able students because they think they can't afford it when they absolutely can - even in this current harsh world ;)

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proudfoot · 11/07/2011 22:20

allegrageller Mon 11-Jul-11 11:00:32

frankly you're in a very different position from current graduates, especially the 9k plus fee intake coming up in 2012. I'm afraid you still sound rather smug, and judgmental, because you assume that just because you found it all manageable, everyone else should do. Even a different generation facing a far more difficult job and property situation than you did... It's a very different world out there now.

Totally wrong.

Why do you suggest I am in a different position to current graduates? You seem to be presuming I am from an older generation, but I am mid-20s and graduated not too long ago (as I did actually say in my post). I got a competitive graduate job during the current economic downturn, so no, current grads are not facing a more difficult job and property situation than I did Confused Hmm

The post-2012 intake will take longer to clear their debt but their repayments will actually be marginally smaller than mine. Anyway, the repayments have no bearing on their financial situation while at uni and are not a barrier to going to university unless it becomes a mental barrier due to the rubbish people spout. I think the system of no-fees upfront and paying back out of your salary when it is high enough is excellent.

Not sure how you equate me saying success at university is by all means possible regardless of income with me judging people.

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floosiemcwoosie · 11/07/2011 21:39

Chachi (not sure if correct spelling) from Happy Days

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mumblechum2 · 11/07/2011 21:36

Oh, Bodie and Doyle, they were so Dishy and Dreamy! As was David Essex

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floosiemcwoosie · 11/07/2011 21:28

I wrote to Jim'll fix it to meet Bodie and Doyle from The Professionals done all this whilst wearing my electric blue mascara.

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mumblechum2 · 11/07/2011 21:22

Oh god have just remembered my Bruce Lee Enter the Dragon poster.

I think I must have been a bit of a tomboy Blush

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floosiemcwoosie · 11/07/2011 21:17

I have to confess it was Duran Duran on mine, with a wee bit of U2 and Ralph machio from the first Karate Kid . Oh god and fame....i did love my pink leg warmers with matching headband.

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catgirl1976 · 11/07/2011 21:13

Could be worse - mine was Bobby Brown Hmm

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Cocoflower · 11/07/2011 21:13

This thread has turned lovely.

I hope it also puts to bed the myth that people who have done well and have got a good attitude have not had any terrible misfortune or have had to compromise and sacrifice; tragedy strikes us all regardless.

You dont just do well just because life is been a bed roses . There is muck and thorns in that bed too...

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LeQueen · 11/07/2011 21:12

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TheRealTillyMinto · 11/07/2011 21:09

Bucks Fizz was the first single i bought (born early 70s Shock). not really a cool child!

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mumblechum2 · 11/07/2011 21:00

Loads of Clash posters here, Give em enough Rope, London Calling, Sandanista, Siouxie Soux, jeez I am truly ancient Smile

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Laquitar · 11/07/2011 20:58

You are a baby Grin 70s child here.

Ah, we should all post what was on our bedroom walls. We need plenty tissues....

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LeQueen · 11/07/2011 20:54

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Laquitar · 11/07/2011 20:49

Yes, i'm old enough to remember him fit Grin
And next to his poster - after the poem- was one of Nadia Comanetsi (sp?)- i'm going down the memory lane now. And a cover of the cosmopolitan!And then 'the Second Sex'. I must have been very mixed up.

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mumblechum2 · 11/07/2011 20:39

We've only had spare cash since last August when we made our last mortgage payment so the novelty hasn't worn off and I am thoroughly enjoying buying stuff for myself like a big diamond ring which I would never have dreamed of, and dh has booked business class flights for our holiday in California whereas for the last 5 years we've had cottages in the pissing rain Devon. We couldn't afford to put the heating on for the last two winters as every spare penny went on the mortgage so we're having great fun now Smile

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TheRealTillyMinto · 11/07/2011 20:23

John Travolta when he was fit, was mighty fine! while we are on the topic Brad Pitt in thelma and louise was absolutely yummy Grin

they dont seem to make 'em like that anymore

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