jo frost - extreme parenting

[hellospoon]

Aibu to think she should be prime minister? She's fantastic!

[PuppyMonkey]

Am I the only one who didn't understand that superhero clock thing she devised...? I couldn't tell what time was supposed to be Superhero time and I'm 44. What chance did the little lad have?

I hate all the chopping and changing between stories too. So all you get is "So far on Extreme parental guidance." "Coming up on Extrame parental guidance." "Later, Jo tackles etc etc/" Just start a bleddy story, tell it and finish it you annoying twats.

[lisad123]

YABU, shes terrible. She forms this them vs Us, with adults being the do as I say type and children left screaming for hours. If I was left in the corner for hours on end, held there when I moved, I would give up in the end too. It doesnt resolve all the issues behind the behaviour, it just deals with the outside physical signs.
I mean telling a parent to not pay any attention to a child pulling out eye lashes?? thing is that child could have some serious issues and worries.

She treats the children with the same rules, and unless im mistaken children are still individiuals!

[unpa1dcar3r]

I find her arrogant.
I would also like to see her spend a few hours with my two SLD sons! She'd be running for dem dare hills in a flash mwhahaha.
Also the programme is heavily editied same as all of 'em.
And her English is not so great; 'would of' instead of 'would have' and double negatives all the time 'he can't do nuffing' etc

[lisad123]

sorry but my views on managing children before I had my girls are very difficult to what I thought after.
You can have a piece of paper and expereince but nothing is better than really knowing what your talking about.

[storytopper]

The superhero clock didn't seem very precise, but it did seem to work for the family. I think what worked was the fact that the parents were paying attention to the lad with the outfits (such a lovely little boy and trying his best in his own way) and not just the daughter with the disabilities. My heart went out to the that family.

[purplepidjin]

haha, Lisa, you had the same criticism I had - pulling out eyelashes is a symptom of something far, far deeper than attention seeking!

It's pretty basic ABA stuff that she does, more complex analyses go on every day in special schools up and down the country

[lesley33]

I think she is great. I read an interview with her and she was saying that she used to work as a nanny and built up a reputation of being able to deal with difficult and badly behaved children.

I don't think she is good just because she gets a good nights sleep or because of the editing of the filming. The nanny 911 programme which uses the same kind of format, does teach parents the same things re. boundaries for example, but the "nannies" don't come across as being as good at it as Jo.

I have also watched programmes where Jo seems to be able to suss out some of the underlying emotional issues and deal with these e.g. 1 mother who had reall worries about her sons eating - which he played up to - seemed to stem from the mothers guilt at not BF him. Jo sessed this guilt out, reassured her and helped the mother to begin to get over this guilt.

[friendcat]

...Let me just say, There will never be naughty steps, reward charts, overweight bossy bootses or bloody gifts for tooth fairies (!) in our house. EVER.

[friendcat]

ok, i meant Dummy fairies - I'm not a complete harridan!

[lesley33]

And one of my DC had a phase of pulling out eyelashes/hair. The experts basically said it is a way of dealing with stress, and to ignore it.

[Itsjustafleshwound]

But why call it extreme parenting??? The title is really off-putting almost suggesting that any other type of parentingadvice barring hers is just not up to scratch and there is only one way to sort issues out??

[yellabelly]

Jo is unconconvincing for several reasons. Some of the child violence seemed staged

[maypole1]

If you learn anything from being a foster carer is that just because you can give brith dose not mean you know anything about children.

[LoveBeingAbleToNamechange]

The superhero boy made me cry, "when I grow up I'm going to fix my sisters brain"

the clock worked as the hour slots where given to dress up and the rest was mild mannered reporter normal clothes.

[LoveBeingAbleToNamechange]

Yella, seriously? Not to me.

[wrongdecade]

It was on last night?? and I missed it??

[RockinSockBunnies]

I think she's brilliant. She talks sense and gets results. Which is more than a lot of the parents on the show (for whatever reasons). She is able to see what the problems are from an impartial standpoint and provide practical solutions that work.

I see no problem with naughty steps, reward charts or any other useful suggestions that she makes.

[mandoo]

I think you could find a million nannies just like her across the country. Nannies always seems to have a better grip on child behaviour than mummy's do. I should know I nannied for years before I had my DS and my discipline was always more effective with my charges than it is with my own son. You children know you have unconditional love for them where as children who aren't yours always know there is a line that should not be crossed.

mummee, I am sure Jo Frost was a nanny before she became super nanny she was recruited from the same agency I was listed with. Your right about the qualifications though.

[HeyYouJimmy]

I thought Jo Frost was a nanny/childminder for a good lot of years before her series. I think she had been in childcare for around 15yrs or so.

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

I love it - her programme makes my DS look like an absolute angel!

[gotolder]

I didn't see the programme under discussion, but have caught some of the earlier series. I loove Jo because she and I share so many ideas about the raising of children although I did my childrearing 40 years ago when there was no such thing as a "naughty step" but I did the same thing without naming it.

We tried to bring up the children with few rules, but those we had were adhered to "come hell or high water". The most important rule was strict bed times with the only exceptions (for special occasions etc) being explained to the DC as exceptions. This didn't mean that it was always easy but at least DH and I were on the same page for all rules and DC always understood. Meals were always taken as a family sitting at the table and no one left the table before everyone was finished (this could be very frustrating for the adults as DCs could often take what felt like "hours", but we all learnt that that time could be usefully used in chatting.

I could write an essay but I think this gives a flavour and we all kept sane.

[girlywhirly]

I think a lot of the parents in these programmes think it is too much like hard work to start as you mean to go on with discipline, routines etc. It is easier to let the DC do as they like. Some even think they should be pally with their DC, and if they aren't, the DC will hate them or something.

IMO it is always worth putting the effort in, and sticking at it, because ultimately it will make their lives easier, and happier, more secure DC. They need their parents to be in charge and control of them for this to happen, and to be consistent in their approach. Maybe Jo Frost has to push some of these parents to make them understand just how dangerous lack of discipline can become, as with the first little boy, who knows what he would do to his mum when he reached teenage, without help.

[LineRunner]

I used to watch Supernanny with my two kids when they were younger, and I think it made them realise just how tough it was being a mum sometimes. I'm sure it made them more considerate towards me.

[StayingDavidTennantsGirl]

I had a lump in my throat at the bit about the little lad wanting/needing to be a superhero so he could fix his sister's brain - what a sweetheart.

[girliefriend]

Love Jo Frost!!! YANBU!!!

I am always amazed when I watch her programmes at how much some parents put up with, I know its hard at times to discipline your kids but omg that little boy was out of control and all I could think was he will grow up to be a thug if this is not sorted out now.

I think Jo does look at reasons behind the behaviour and is an expert at sussing out what is really going on. She also knows what kids need to be happy and relaxed ie parents that are in control, routines and having some good quality time with their family.

My only criticism of last nights programme was the guilt I ended up feeling after the whole 'the average child only spends 49 mins with their parents in a day' on the days I work this is probably true