My SIL and grown up daughter are over from abroad staying with inlaws. She has stipulated that though we were assuming she would come to stay, she does want to see us but doesn't want to travel to us so wants us to come there. This means that either my DP has to have a difficult discussion with her, which he is reluctant to, or we (including DS2 and 3 who are 3 and 1) do the two and a half hours travel to see them. I've said to DP we could pick SIL up to stay here to save her travelling, or we could see them for the day and leave home early and come back before bed time, but I am not at all keen to stay at MILs. His reply is that he will then go and stay over without me, with the kids. TBH I have just finished a period of being totally knackered with DS3 waking at 5am and have just got him back on track. I am just not feeling up to staying over in my MIL's partner's 3 bed manky house which will packed with 6 adults plus our kids, chasing DS3 who will be pulling everything off shelves etc. and dealing with MIL's partner who can't tolerate kids. DP doesn't really get on with his mother or her partner and just wants to see his sister. I guess I'm also not a big fan of being cornered and being dictated to by other people, so maybe I am being unreasonable but I really can't face it! Added to which last time this happened and we did stay over, SIL sniffed the sheets on the double bed and said 'I think they'll be OK. I'm not very smelly' and left us to sleep on the bedding she had been on for a week ...though it was kind of her to offer to sleep in the sitting room for us I guess. Do I cave in or stick to my guns and have a peaceful weekend to myself but confirm myself as 'the difficult woman' with the inlaws?
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marl · 04/07/2011 11:48
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