to move in with SIL?

[BrightRed]

Regular but namechanger... Do I really have to type the list?

Firstly a bit of background. I was widowed fairly young and have a small DS. This isn't about the bereavement, although obviously that was a major life event, but I am coping well and moving on.

The thing is I live in the back of beyond at the family home and I want to get out and have a decent social life again. SIL, who lives in a big city, wants me to come and live with her. Her DH is away most of the time (in the forces) and she wants the company. We're a bit like chalk and cheese - I'm quite sociable and would be wanting to get out quite a bit, she's more of a curl-up-with-a-book sort of woman.

There is another complication. Way back (when we were single) I sort of threw myself at SIL's husband. He politely let me down and told me he was in love with her - and I went on to marry my DH. I still think he might fancy me a bit though. But in any case, he's not going to be around most of the time.

WWYD?

[BrightRed]

Thanks to those who took the time to reply seriously though (feeling guilty about winding people up now). Bloody hell - I'd make a shit troll.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

I knew it was a spoof as I read further into the thread but didn't work out Gone With The Wind till Maryz spotted it .
I love Scarlett BTW, she wasn't very nice, but she was tough , unlike the wimpy Melanie or her sisters.

[BrightRed]

I thought the user name would give it away much more quickly.

[BrightRed]

Maryz - I recently reread it and DD read it for the first time. The racism is appalling but obviously part of the fabric of the society at the time. I did point that out to DD when read it.
We also had a chat about Scarlett's character - how she is often perceived as a great romantic heroine but that she is very flawed and how she develops through the book (and how she has some redeeming characteristics).

[worraliberty]

Oh right thanks Maryz I've never seen it

[sausagesandmarmelade]

oh of course...it's the weekend!

[sausagesandmarmelade]

I think she is being very generous....

What is his opinion of you moving in?

Am inclined to think you shouldn't....could cause problems.

[worraliberty]

Ok so it's a spoof but I still don't get it?

[stillfrazzled]

Sorry, that brought out my inner competitive 6yo .

Was v good OP.

[BrightRed]

Yes, stillfrazzled very good.

Didn't know there was another spoof thread Eric.

[EricNorthmansMistress]

Is this another spoof thread on Gone With The Wind? Is it popular enough for that to be funny once, let alone twice? I've never watched it...

[BrightRed]

Maryz - I was starting to feel guilty that it was being taken seriously so started to get more outrageous. I don't think I'd make a good troll. It's MardyBra btw/.

[SinicalSal]

Means someone is looking for attention Eric

[BrightRed]

Well done Maryz - wow she really was a mean bitch (certainly at the beginning) wasn't she.

[buzzsore]

T'is a wind-up, Eric.

[EricNorthmansMistress]

I need to move somewhere where I can be the centre of attention.

What on earth does that mean?

[stillfrazzled]

And me, dammit!

[suzikettles]

ok, suckered there

[BrightRed]

at Maryz

[EricNorthmansMistress]

I would say do it, for a while. Sounds like SIL is a bit lonely, and would probably babysit while you go out and have some fun :) Can you sell the family home while staying with SIL, and use the funds to buy/rent where she lives? That way you can keep the connection there but also work towards being independent.
Only thing I'd say is make sure you pay rent, you don't want to be beholden - and you'll have to live with her idolising her dead brother to some extent. Was your H abusive? I'd also leave R out of it for now :)

[buzzsore]

It would be a bad idea to move in.

You threw yourself at her dh and he turned you down, but you think he has the hots for you?

And you wouldn't want to reminsce fondly about your late dh with her, so I think you would find that difficult.

Really bad idea to move in.