to be really annoyed that despite telling DH four times to put the carseats back in my car

[BumWiper]

That he is gone to work with them still in his car.And he is on an overnight trip so I cant bring DC to a birthday party tomorrow.Is it only my DH that seems to suffer from ''whoops'' disease?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Strictly speaking, it wasn't the OP who needed the seats, it was her LOs. I think this is where the issue lies. If I need something I will get it. If DD needs something, it is not just my responsibility. Even my, very domestically good, DH, slides into this. DD needs to have her teeth brushed, I want it to be DH's job because feeding, clothing, getting to sleep are all mine. He wants to be reminded. WHY? He doesn't remind me to BF. So, I have to grit my teeth and let him forget sometimes (and clean them in secret on those days ). Not remind him, and have this slowly become my job too. I should add that DH does most of the housework without being nagged reminded.

[Bogeyface]

Well I am great believer that if people are relying on you, as the the OP was on her DH, then you should be reliable!

[Rainydaze]

YANBU. Very annoying!

[LoveBeingAbleToNamechange]

Have you let him know yet?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

That's what she's dodging coffee for...

[BumWiper]

Just to clarify I was feeding The Baby,not CoffeeDodger.

Cause thats just.........weird.

[BumWiper]

Well I managed to borrow suitable seats for The Tween and The 5yr old.Left The Baby and The Toddler with a neighbour and ran them to the party.

I was busy feeding coffeeDodger so I couldn't go get them.

[BertieBotts]

Or can DH come back early? What time is the party?

[BertieBotts]

Yes see if someone can give the DC invited to the party a lift - assuming it's the 9 or 5 year old, they'd be fine with a cheap booster as a one off?

But agree he should have made an extra effort to remember if he was going on an overnight trip.

[vmcd28]

things like this do my head in - DH becomes another child to look after.
I could strange DH most days, for ignoring me or not doing ONE THING I've asked him to! AAAAAARGH!

so, ahem, YANBU.

Is it all 4 seats he's taken?
Can a friend take him to the party...?

Coffee, I completely disagree re it's "my responsibility" to put the seats back if I need them in my car. Especially if, like the op said, I was effing breastfeeding OUR baby when I asked DH to do it.

[SenoritaViva]

Can no one give the birthday party DC a lift?

[Bogeyface]

Coffedodger... your attitude is why there are so many useless men around who "forget" to do perfectly reasonable things, because they know that the women in their lives will pick up the slack!

Being asked, 4 times, to move the car seats when the OP is dealing with their children and then not doing it is U and selfish. He is an adult, a father, not a 7 year old who has forgotten his pump bag.

[olibeansmummy]

Coffeedodger seriously?! Surely as 2 parents their responsibility for the kids safety is joint?

[Cutiecat]

Coffeedodger - OP was not hoping he remembered she ased him to do something that was important for the safety of their dc and he didn't.

Bumwiper - my dh is the same. He has been known to go off to london with the car seats in his car but also my car keys in his pocket. Bloody nightmare.

[storminabuttercup]

yaba - only four times? - you should have asked at least ten

[Spuddybean]

aaah yes but you have to put a time frame so 'hey honey, do you think you would be able to ...by ...pm tonight?' if not done and time limit approaching i add 'i know your busy while playing xbox but i need to know if you are going to be able to do... If not then i will do it mayself but it means i wont then be able to do ....for you' (and chose something which takes similar time).
This is how i learnt to teach!! a reasonable request, with a realistic timeframe and repercussions explained - that way it is always someones choice to do what you want or face the consequences .

[tryingtobemarypoppins2]

CoffeeDodger how bloody rude.

Really feel for you. You clearly have your hands full and soem men just don't think! Grrrrrrr for you.

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

If you have two cars, keep one with the car seats permanently in and whoever is going out, if they have the kids, take that car.

[skybluepearl]

does he realise yet?

[skybluepearl]

mine never seems to register things like that either. i can ask a couple of times and then i usually say 'this is the last time I'm asking you as ive other things to think about'. frustrating isn't it.

can you get one of the other mums to help you out? text/phone around?

[griphook]

buy new ones and tell him do over time to pay for them. To be honest I get really fed up of DP saying he will do something and then not doing done. so yadnbu.

[BumWiper]

Maybe Spuddy but then asking DH to do anything translates to him as whenever he is ready.
I asked him could he get petrol for the lawnmower last week.He said,yea no problem.I ended up going myself that evening.

[Spuddybean]

Perhaps he doesn't like being 'told' and might prefer to be 'asked'. I found with my DP that 'telling' never works but 'asking' does, he then can say no and i can do it myself.