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AIBU?

How on earth do I stop mil ringing at this time of the morning?

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janejon · 23/05/2011 11:53

My mil keeps rings us at 6 am whenever she wants to talk to my dh (sometimes earlier!). She does this because she thinks my husband gets up early- he used to, but does not have to get up this early anymore (fortunately). I mean bs to my still being asleep and everything but that's another story...

Anyway, I'm absolutely sick of this- dh won't confront her (again another story, she won't 'remember' apparently ) but I have really, really got to stop this cap. I mean who in their right mind rings at this time anyway? (unless really, really important and not just for a 'chat'?) Please, folks, how can I stop this. Sneaky tricks accepted as long as not illegal!!

People are either running around like anything getting ready for work or, if not, asleep. So why do this anyway?! At end of tether regarding this particular issue. Help.

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LindyHemming · 29/05/2011 13:39

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 29/05/2011 13:24

Well done janejon!! I actually didn't doubt that you were right about your MIL - that asking her to stop wouldn't work - but felt that by asking, giving her one last chance and then taking action, you'd feel like you'd got control of the situation - and I hope that's the case.

I think she's got off fairly lightly, actually. It's well known in this family how much I do NOT do mornings, and there has to be some sort of major emergency before the dses will contemplate disturbing my slumbers! If any relative of mine was routinely ringing me at 6am (which, by the way, is not morning - it's still night time), I would have been cross enough to bite lumps out of them!

janejon · 29/05/2011 09:25

gapants, What are you talking about? For the millionth time, my dh-quite rightly as it turns out!- realised that asking her would not work- which-guess what?- it has not. She rang at 5.50am this morning. As I earlier said, her phone has NOW been put on divert- did it straight after I told her we were in bed and put phone down on her. I agreed in that there was no harm in telling her, but in spite of this she continues to ring so she has now been diverted and I won't have to put up with her early calls anymore.

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gapants · 28/05/2011 19:45

Flip me sideways..I read all of this thread and janejon you sound as mad as a brush! I can see this thread really riled you, and me.

Your DH handled his mum brilliantly... no wait that didn't happen.

LifeOfKate · 28/05/2011 19:24

:o

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 28/05/2011 13:37

You see, this is where Mumsnet could do with tickers. We could have one running on this thread - "Number of days since janejon's MIL has called at 6am!"

LindyHemming · 27/05/2011 17:06

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janejon · 27/05/2011 15:33

Euphemia. I have to leave the thread for now simply because I've nothing else to say. If anything interesting happens regarding this issue, I shall post- but I have found the solution and will divert her calls to my mobile which I shall put out of earshot (or just simply switch ringer off) between hours of 10pm and 9am (I always give landline number out but not always mobile number to people so if there is an emergency of sorts the landline will still be accessible).
Hopefully, she'll give up when nobody ever answers her early morning calls anymore.
She does, however, get her grandson to e-mail us occasionally for when she can't get through but I can't see him being happy to e-mail us at 6am for no good f**king reason!

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horriblemotheragain · 26/05/2011 21:59

Can you put the phone under a beanbag or something? That would drive me mad. My mum rang me the other day at 6.40am, woke me up from a lovely dream, and also woke my daughter who was in my bed, so we were all up! Gggrr. But she's my mum so I can tell her that it really pissed me off!!!

manticlimactic · 26/05/2011 20:34

I hope you put her mobile number on the divert list if she has one.
Would be infuriating if she realises her landline is on divert then she rings from her mobile.

RedHeels · 26/05/2011 20:15

Tell your Mil "of course we should we up and indeed are for the morning sex!".

LindyHemming · 26/05/2011 19:12

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StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 26/05/2011 19:00

In fairness, call-forwarding was not suggested until quite some way into the thread. I know I didn't think about it straight away.

janejon · 26/05/2011 18:44

Lou222, I am afraid you are the stubborn one, not me. I have at least admitted that there is no harm in asking, this is not the same, however, as believing that she will actually do as I wish.

She STILL thinks that there is nothing wrong with ringing so early -as I have explained above- and, as we know, people who THINK they've done nothing wrong still carry out same behaviour so there is little doubt in my mind that she will continue to ring so early. But I have a plan now to stop it.

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valiumredhead · 26/05/2011 18:41

Indeed

Bunbaker · 26/05/2011 18:29

"And you do know that you don't have to put your mobile out of era shot? You can just put it on silent!"

Or just switch it off.

Lou222 · 26/05/2011 18:27

So you know when we were all saying why don't you just ask her, what harm can it do? You kept saying it won't work and getting really angry.

And after 13 pages you have................................
ASKED HER
Brilliant, why didn't we think of that !!

You are as bloody stubborn as you were pretending she was.

valiumredhead · 26/05/2011 18:27

And you do know that you don't have to put your mobile out of era shot? You can just put it on silent!

Pictish · 26/05/2011 18:25

Get it diverted to your husband's mobile, not yours!!!

valiumredhead · 26/05/2011 18:22

Don't do them often but feel the need for a big LOL

Nixea · 26/05/2011 15:40

I still find it hard to believe it took 13 pages to come up with the solution that was slap-in-the-face obvious in the first place

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 26/05/2011 15:24

Good for you, janejon. I hope she listens to you, and I'm glad you have a back up plan for when if she doesn't listen.

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janejon · 26/05/2011 15:09

Apparently I can now get her number diverted to ANY number for a small fee, so any more ridiculously early calls will lead me to doing this. I am going to get her number diverted to my mobile which will be out of earshot between hours of 10pm -9am. Only her number will be diverted and, if there are any emergencies regarding my husband's family, I dare say his sister (s) will ring and they will be able to contact us. Problem solved.

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CurrySpice · 26/05/2011 14:27

Hey, just read back one page guys. She's said what she's going to do, and is in the process of doing it. Read back!

valiumredhead · 26/05/2011 14:22

Oh ffs OP you are SUCH a wind up merchant!

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