To think picking a 4yr old child up by their arm and throwing them on a sofa

[devonsmummy]

is totally unreasonable - followed by 4 mansize smacks to the bottom?

[HecateQueenOfTheNight]

I think it was OTT, yes. Physically lifting the child and throwing them onto the sofa? Not on. 4 'mansize' - I assume that is a way of saying very hard indeed? - whallops as well?

If my husband picked me up and threw me onto a piece of furniture and then hit me 4 times, I'd divorce him. I don't think it's any more acceptable when it's a parent doing it to a child.

[devonsmummy]

No not me ! I had just put him on back door mat and H came downstairs picked him up by the arm threw him on sofa ( he says dropped) and hit him 4 times.
I told him it was out of order he stormed upstairs and slammed door.
DS was almost sick - retching afterwards

[beesimo]

I am assuming the culprit was the Father?

Don't argue the toss about serverity of treatment just say 'do you want your DCs to love you or do you want them to be frightened of you' then watch his face and that will tell you what to do next.

[cookcleanerchaufferetc]

So did you hit him for this? Why not put him on the naughty corner instead?

[devonsmummy]

Asked to play an xbox game that he knew he wasn't allowed to play then cried - which went into a whine - for about 5 mins.

[onceamai]

Disgusting and FWIW I once gently and without force pulled dd (3 then) towards me when she was lying on the floor and wouldn't get up for tea and dislocated her elbow. Had to go to a&e to have it clicked back (manipulated) into place. She was in a lot of pain. With force it could have been much much worse. More details OP.

[cookcleanerchaufferetc]

Wow, is this you or your or your partner doing this? What was the reason? Seems very very excessive to me.

[MissVerinder]

It is so unreasonable! What had said 4 year old done to "deserve" that?

[sausagesandmarmelade]

Completely agree..........