To be annoyed by pils trying to categorize my baby?

[Moulesfrites]

I probably am BU, as everything the pils do seems to irritate me ATM, but they keep coming out with statements about 10 week old ds like:

Clearly, he's a baby who likes lying down.
He's a bubble blower
He's a thumb sucker
He's a comfort sucker

When they ave seen him do any f the above once or twice. To me, ds is just himself, and I don't understand this need they have to put him in a box.

God help me when I become a mil as they can do no right!

[exoticfruits]

I think tht people chill out once the baby grows, and has a voice of its own. I can only think the hormones have kicked in when people have so many issues to start with. Once everyone gets out of my baby mode, things improve.

[Bottleofbeer]

You're going to have a lot more to get pissed off about as the baby grows.

[HipHopopotomus]

seriously????? [WTF face]

YABU - chill out!

[valiumredhead]

They are taking an interest in their Grandson.

I feel SO sorry for most of the IL's mentioned on MN. WE will be IL's one day!

[Itchywoolyjumper]

I sometimes get a bit irritated by my ILs (probably as much as I do their heads in) but I think it just goes with the territory. Having a wee one changes the family dynamic and all of us take a wee while fall into our new roles. As other posters have said on here engaged and loving grandparents are a real blessing. I think a vent on MN and then back to RL, serene and lovely is exactly the way to deal with it.

Onetoomanycornetto - you've made me think of my own lovely grandad. He used to call me the Beautiful Dreamer when I was so away with the fairies on so many occasions that the rest of my family could have happily strangled me :)

[QueenofDreams]

Hmm, in all honesty it could be worse.

When DS was newborn I happened to be on the phone to my mum when he did a massive projectile vomit (only ever happened that one time) before you know it she was telling all the family that he had some condition that causes projectile vomiting and requires surgery

When DD was 3 weeks old my mum kept trying to hold her hand and she kept pulling it away. My mum decided that my 3 week old baby must be austistic because she didn't want her hand held.

[TheSkiingGardener]

My MIL has to categorise everything. It's her way of coping. I hate anybody being put in a box so that led to some friction in the past. Now we just appreciate we have very different ways of being and can laugh about it. Took a while though!

[usualsuspect]

yabu

[gorionine]

To me it depends on the tone they are using as in if it is "He is a Bubble blower, How cute" is fine if it is "OMG he is a bubble blower if you do not do anything about it right now he will dribble all his lfe and will be titally unable to partake in any social event!" It would bother me too.

As other have said, it might very well be just acomment in passing as a way of making conversation and later it will carry on becayuse children do have personalities/abilities that do jump to us like "oh he/she is such a clown!" or "He? she is so clever!" Part of life IMHO

[exoticfruits]

I think that you would find that had your MIL picked up on something serious goodmum you would be very grateful!
The poor woman loves her grandchild and was worried-probably you worry more if it isn't your own.
I do think some MIL get a hard time! Maybe they shouldn't say a word and then they could be on MN with 'my MIL doesn't show any interest' or 'my baby was ill and MIL was dismissive of a sniffle'!

[goodmum123]

My mil says silly things when my baby cries, "Poor thing, you're hungry, you're teething" etc etc (Since she was 6 weeks old!! and still no sign of teeth). Just winds me up and i dont know why. Also, she had a cold last week and mil got me so worried at one point that i nearly called an out of hours doctor (on a sunday) because she was saying. "oh the poor darling, she can hardly breathe, is so floppy " when actually she had a blocked nose and then fell asleep on me !! so ott about everything and i know she cares but SHUT UP!! sorry turned into a rant

[exoticfruits]

If that is all that you have to worry about you are doing well! I bet a lot of the stuff that you say is pretty stupid if posted on the internet and analysed!

[upahill]

Me to Etalb.

I know that Moules has said this was a lighthearted thread but there are a lot of 'absoutly furious' and 'livid' daughter in law out there and when you read their post your just think poor MIL, she can't say or do anything without being pounced on or reported to MN!!

[Etalb]

If I become a mil I will cut out my tongue!

[PrincessScrumpy]

My ils regularly tell me dd takes after their side of the family - seriously, she doesn't get anything from me (apparently). She looks like dh, but does also look like me. My dad put a pic of me at 2 years old on fb and loads of family commented how much she and I looked alike - mil did not like that. Oh and dd is clever so that's from dh's side too. Ok dh is clever but my family has a history of going to Oxbridge (including my brother) so we're not a bunch of thickies.

Just smile - dh gets more offended than I do. I just tell myself, they love dd and that's what matters.

[berylmuspratt]

My inlaws spent the first few months after DS was born telling me how much he looked like my DH, DH's Sister and any other member of their family.

My MIL also told me that DH and his Sister had done everything that DS did.

With hindsight I think she was just giddy about her first grandchild and pleased we finally had something in common :)

Don't worry about it.

[Moulesfrites]

Weepy stage, I meant!

[Moulesfrites]

Hello, been out for the day, sorry.

Well I did admit I thought I was BU!

Am glad some people recognized the lighthearted nature of the op, and thAnk you to the person who pointed out that it might be the hormones and sleep deprivation talking! I thought that since I am over the swept stage the hormones wouldn't still affect me, but clearly not...

Clearly I need to relax and be grateful....

[Hulababy]

Goodness me, if this is all you have to get cross or grumble about.......

The poor people are showing an interest in their grandchild.
They have not said anything negative (in the OP at least).
They are making conversation, and talking about your baby and their grandchild.

Give them a break!!!

[MrsBananaGrabber]

YABU

[Sidge]

This thread (and some others I've read recently) makes me quite sad actually.

I foresee a future where we live in little sterile bubble units and don't allow anyone to touch/talk to/help or in any way interact with our children. God forbid a family member or stranger in any way makes an innocuous or daft comment or touches the baby without a permission form signed in triplicate by both parents and the baby itself.

Any comments made must be pre-approved (in writing) and subject to certain criteria that make no mention of any other family members, age, weight, facial appearance, hair colour, clothes, behaviour or mannerisms.

[worraliberty]

Almost every day on MN I read a post and think 'that's the most unreasonable, grumpy, daftest thing I've ever read'

Then I log in today and the OP doesn't disappoint

Chill out FFS at least they're taking an interest in your offspring.

[Shodan]

Hmm. Good point.

Well, they should be ok until the baby is, say, six months.

After that, I'm stumped.