To think DH could have tried harder this weekend?

[Kushanku]

This weekend was supposed to be a chance for DH and I to spend some time together, away from kids and just relax and enjoy ourselves. It's not often we can get babysitters and last night was one of the very rare occasions that we managed it. So the weekend was planned for a few weeks. First thing DH does is agree to do a very early shift saturday morning (we're talking 4am start). He knew this would knacker him up for the saturday night but he still went ahead and did it anyway. I complained that the saturday night would be shit if he was tired, grumpy and wanted to go to bed early so he PROMISED it would not affect anything. Then to make matters worse, he told them he'd go in and start at 3am instead. That, to me is practically a night shift. Again he promised it wouldn't affect him for the night time.
So I begrudgingly let that go and started looking forward to saturday night. Then he started mentioning that the rugby was on Sky Sports. Very important match apparantly and we just "had" to watch it. I asked what time it finished, he said 'around' 8pm. I mean, ffs this was supposed to be a romantic night together and he wants to sit there watching the fooking rugby all night??? So I said "we're going to cinema!" he said "yeah but we can go to the late one and still watch the rugby".

So from 5pm until 8pm - I asked what am I supposed to do whilst you're sitting watching that for 3 hours?? he replied "watch it with me". I said "I'm not interested in it" so he said "play on the PC until it finishes then". So getting really pissed off by this point I say "yeah, just like every other night - what was the point in us getting babysitters if we're just going to be sat here watching telly anyway?" so he snapped at me and said "fine, we'll go to the early cinema showing then, I'll miss the rugby"

So we get an early takeaway, we sit down down to eat, I'm just about the start a conversation and he puts the radio on full blast - rugby commentating blaring out. I eat my tea seething, we get in the car to go to cinema, I set up the stereo to play some music but no, he wants the rugby still blaring over the radio. We get to cinema, he makes sure I'm seated with the food, bag, coats etc and he decides he needs the toilet. He NEVER needs toilet after we've sat down, I'm not stupid, he went to check the rugby on his phone in the toilets. Even had the cheek to come back and tell me the scores.

After the film, he immediately checks his phone, boasts that his team won. I say I don't care. We go home and its only 10pm. Guess who's tired and wants to go to bed?

So am I over-reacting or could he have tried a hell of a lot harder to make this weekend nicer (or even more bareable).

[Doookie]

Sounds like he wanted to use the child-free weekend as a relaxing time for himself rather than as a couple. I wouldve been annoyed too. Next time you get a babysitter, arrange to go out with friends instead. Leave him sat at home to watch TV.

[atswimtwolengths]

Leave him at home with the babysitter, Doookie?

Kushanku, it sounds like a really crap night and I don't blame you for being annoyed.

Is it possible for you to go out for the day or overnight, next time, so that he can't do the things that he's obviously happy doing every day?

What did you like to do together, before you had children?

[happiestblonde]

YANBU

at all

I would be seething too