to expect to not be judged?

[rpickett]

I'm getting so fed up of people being negative because I plan on breastfeeding when my little girl is born. I don't give a monkeys how people choose to feed their own babies so AIBU to expect people to keep their opinions to themselves?
Where I live at the moment there is about 10 of us pregnant ladies due within a few months and keep getting asked "so what formula are you planing on using?" or "are you taking bottles into hospital?" and when I reply that no I plan on breastfeeding I get looked upon like a leper and comments such as "why would you do that, it makes your boobs droopy" "I cant be bothered with that, Im not even gonna try, bottles are so much easier", I don't ask what peoples plans are and if someone says they plan on formula feeding from the start I don't make comments so AIBU to expect the same in return?

[Morloth]

I think to start with formula is probably easier, but after the first few weeks breastfeeding really comes into its own as far as convenience is concerned.

If you are there and the baby is there, then feeding is sorted and you don't need to worry about running out when you are out and about.

[TheBountyMuncher]

• that should be breastfeeding! She didn't actually say bfing!
  

[TheBountyMuncher]

I've heard people say things like this- yanbu!

My friends mum in fact said to me "urgh! why are you bfing?!"
I've also had " it's just wrong "

I couldn't give a rats arse how people feed their babies, so long as they do, and certainly didn't bring conversations up about it.
Some people just feel that their input is required!

Ignore them.

[TrillianAstra]

Snurk at Hully.

[Hullygully]

Breastfeeding is unnatural

[moominmarvellous]

My sister is like this with me - I breastfed DD and plan to breastfeed again. If something happens whereby it's not possible, e.g. baby doesn't take to it, nilk doesn't come in etc then I'll go formula, but bfing is my first port of call.

I think people who say these things are automatically assuming that those who bf think formula is the milk of the devil. i personally don't give a hoot what others do as long as they feed their babies somehow. Personal choice all the way.

But my sister has said 'oh you're not bfing again - you were a mess last time, so hormonal' I WAS hormonal as a first time mother, but not because of breastfeeding!

Then yesterday she told me she never did as she didn't want boobs that looked like empty socks......

Well mine don't, in fact, they look better than hers - so there! (touch wood - DC2 might drag them south and prove her right!)

[usualsuspect]

I've never heard anyone say these things

[ChippingIn]

I think I'd move back to where I'd come from - it sounds great where you live now

Just tell them you are BF because it's the quickest way to get back into your size 0 jeans - that'll have them all joining you!

[splashy]

Op sorry to hear you have had such poor experiences.

Also as a 37 week pregnant mum to be who plans on bf'ing I'm glad to hear that it doesn't make your boobs saggy (not that that would have stopped me, but I did worry)

Hope things get better xx

[Shaz10]

I have to admit I found bottlefeeding pretty easy. But that's not why I stopped breastfeeding!

[Quenbioz]

YANBU to wish people would mind their own business about whichever feeding method you've chosen.

[rpickett]

Diddl the age range of this group is between 19-26 I'm 22 myself and had DS1 at 19 so I don't believe its an age thing, it maybe be a location thing, we relocated a few months back and it is mostly a "chavvy" area (we moved to be closer to family) where most young mums want to palm the babies off every weekend to go out drinking (my OH works at th pub so sees the same people, unfortunatly the only other mums or mums to be I have met at groups etc seem to be older and tar me with the same brush as the younger ones so making friends isn't easy.

[SirBoobAlot]

Droopy boobs is nothing to do with breastfeeding though. Its to do with pregnancy and skin tone.

[Quenbioz]

That is, if it works for you and you're not one of the unlucky ones who genuinely can't breastfeed.

"It is so much easier to breast feed. You just discretely latch them on and off you go."

[PYT]

I'd just ignore them and get on with doing your own thing.

[meltedchocolate]

I do have very droopy boobs now it has to be said BUT it was far easier at the time than bottle feeding. Apart from being the only one that can feed when baby is little which is nackering. You just whip em out feed and, oh look, they are already put away.. No 'how many bottles have you brought?' 'Two and they magically refill'

[SirBoobAlot]

Are the majority of them younger mums? I ask as they are the same things I have heard from the teen antenatal group I went to.

But anyway - if you are happy with your choice then that is what matters. It is difficult being on the receiving end of negativity, and being in the minority with your pregnancy / birth / parenting choices, but try not to get upset by it (know its hard!). Be content with your own decisions and don't let anyone tell you to do otherwise :)

[diddl]

Sorry for the hijack & I´ll sound really ignorant here, but if someone decides not to bfeed, what do you do when the milk comes in?

Just ignore?

[NicknameInUse]

It's the milk that can make boobs droopy and you get that whether you breastfeed or not. What stupid, ignorant, rude women! I can't begin to fathem where they've 'learnt' that load of nonsense!
God I hate it when people start judging/commenting on other people's parenting choices [anrgy]

[cidre]

Never heard of anyone being slated for bfing.

[anonwomble]

bottles easier? I've never made up formula but have you seen how many threads there are about getting it right? Looks like a right faf to me, and you have to get out of bed at night, no thanks!

[WhatsWrongWithYou]

I agree - get yourself some civilised friends who'll support each other whatever they decide re. feeding.

[diddl]

Oh dear OP these women do sound misinformed to say the least-either that or very young!

Hopefully as you´ve already done it twice it will all work out OK fr you.