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Alcohol support

Day 1

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Itsenoughnow · 05/05/2023 02:37

Hey lovely mumsnetters so it’s pretty early in the morning and I can’t get to sleep, you see I made a decision tonight that I’m done with alcohol. I lost my dearest cousin nearly 3 years ago now she would have been 40 this year, I can’t do this to myself anymore, I have been so frightened by it but I have to just stop, I feel a relief that I’ve made the choice, it can be so lonely , so sending love to anyone else who has struggled too we can do this xxxx

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Itsenoughnow · 01/06/2023 18:43

Hey everyone how are you all doing ? It’s day 27 and I’m feeling pretty good still managing not to have alcohol, I was so anxious that I wouldn’t sleep but actually it’s been fine, I’ve also lost 9 pounds which considering that I’m over 16 stone I really needed to do and more ! Sending hugs to anyone struggling today

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Itsenoughnow · 18/05/2023 15:32

Hey so glad you are feeling brighter so it’s day 13 for me and I’m feeling better than I have in a long time so much more energy, I’m going through the menopause and managing my symptoms is so much easier without alcohol. I really hope I can keep this up sending support

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Battlecat98 · 18/05/2023 12:13

So day 5 today and I do feel brighter, sleep though is awful at the moment, but I remember this from last time.
How is everyone else feeling?

Battlecat98 · 16/05/2023 19:26

How is everyone? I have a couple of days off work so had a lovely walk and listened to a new quit lit book on audible.
I have a couple of social events coming up so I need to prep myself. I am excited to be sober again but still feel a bit deflated by it all.

Itsenoughnow · 16/05/2023 05:38

Hey Battlecat great to have you here I will check out Craig Beck sending hugs and support

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Battlecat98 · 15/05/2023 11:23

I'm in again. Day 1. Did a whole year up to this January and felt amazing. Why did I start again?
Anyway I started listening to Craig Beck again as I found that so helpful last time.

Itsenoughnow · 15/05/2023 06:03

Morning HappyasLarrrynot of course you can join, you have made an important step and support is so vital, we are all here to provide that, I’m now on day 10 and can honestly say that I feel healthier than I have in such a long time both emotionally and physically, give yourself a hug for getting to this point and be brave - you can do it, sending love and support

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HappyasLarrynot · 15/05/2023 02:00

Please may I join in also? I need to stop drinking. Mainly for health reasons but I’m also not a nice drunk and my relationship is beginning to suffer from my short tempered ness. I just seem to always have a reason not to stop - I need to be much firmer with myself 😔

UltraWarrior · 13/05/2023 11:06

How is everyone doing?
I had some wine last night. So annoying! I just can’t give it up altogether. I may have to leave the thread rather then bring everyone down.
Hope everyone else is doing well.

UltraWarrior · 11/05/2023 07:02

Welcome @NCgoingdry.
How is everyone? I’ve decided to rearrange a meal out this weekend. I started to tell myself that it would be fine to drink on just that one night but I know deep down I actually don’t want to.
I’ve been thinking about a realistic goal. I did 6 weeks at the start of the year and I’d like to at least match that. For now, thinking about ‘forever’ feels unachievable.
I’m still taking it one day at a time but I’m feeling positive about this weekend.
Have decided to try and get out in the evening for a walk or exercise class or quick trip to the shops. I just need to avoid sitting on the sofa for hours.

UltraWarrior · 10/05/2023 07:02

Definitely a day at a time.
Last night I went for a walk to distract myself. It worked and also helped with the sleep I think, which was slightly better than the night before.
I’m not out of the fog yet. Still feeling a bit down, a bit anxious etc. hoping that will pass with time.
Have a good day all 😀

Itsenoughnow · 10/05/2023 06:22

Hey NC going dry well done on staying firm it’s definitely worth it, I’m doing good thanks I’m up and am getting the kids brekkie sorted without feeling like I’m in a fog, Now that you have day 1 under your belt that proves you can do it but I would still say take it a day at a time sending hugs 🤗

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NCgoingdry · 10/05/2023 05:20

@UltraWarrior @Itsenoughnow thanks for the welcome.

I've just woken up and I'm so relieved not to feel shame and nausea.

It was a close call last night after the days events at work, opening the wine would be my signal but I stayed firm.

I did feel a bit agitated and I struggled to drift off. But I did it.

Day 1 under my belt.

How are you all feeling?

Itsenoughnow · 09/05/2023 18:23

You know it really doesn’t help, clever people in marketing for alcohol companies would have you think it does, also other people collude with each other to justify their own issues/ addiction but you can choose to be in the driving seat of your life and not let the bottle dictate, stay strong sending hugs

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TryingThisAgainAgain · 09/05/2023 18:11

Itsenoughnow · 09/05/2023 18:05

Hey everyone I think it’s great that more people have come on board and I think if things slip, you have to just keep trying, I saw a quote once and it was ‘this thing called failure is not the falling down but the staying down’ we can choose to get up and start again. I’m having the odd wave of a craving at times, for example I’ve just had a really stressful day at work and the old me would be running to the shop to get wine, instead I’m going to hug my children and take a bath and look forward to a cold drink instead. I know that when I get up tomorrow my mind and body will thank me for not having alcohol. Sending a hand squeeze to those finding it tough today 😀

Day 1 here! Hope I can kick it again as I am under a lot of stress and using alcohol to cope just does not help at all!

Itsenoughnow · 09/05/2023 18:05

Hey everyone I think it’s great that more people have come on board and I think if things slip, you have to just keep trying, I saw a quote once and it was ‘this thing called failure is not the falling down but the staying down’ we can choose to get up and start again. I’m having the odd wave of a craving at times, for example I’ve just had a really stressful day at work and the old me would be running to the shop to get wine, instead I’m going to hug my children and take a bath and look forward to a cold drink instead. I know that when I get up tomorrow my mind and body will thank me for not having alcohol. Sending a hand squeeze to those finding it tough today 😀

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 09/05/2023 12:48

Hi there I'm on day 149 after doing 7 months last year and starting again. I feel great! Just wanted to come on and cheer you all on! X

RightyThen · 09/05/2023 12:19

Keeping my hands busy is what I will struggle with too I did try mindful colouring previously I might try that again. I’m still trying to do day 1 let myself down last night but going to listen to a podcast shortly and hopefully start again x

UltraWarrior · 09/05/2023 06:48

Hi @NCgoingdry and welcome. We may have been on the same dry Jan thread. I lasted until Valentine’s Day. Those 6 weeks I felt like a different person. My intake has slowly crept back up until I’m basically back where I started.
I had such an awful night’s sleep. Couldn’t nod off and worrying about anything and everything. Sleep is one of my biggest motivators to stop drinking because the quality and quantity is so shocking when I’m drinking, not just that night but for a couple of nights after too (until I most likely drink again).
I’m also struggling between 7 and 8 in the evening so I’m trying to sit down to watch tv a little later than normal or doing things like my nails to keep my hands and mind distracted.

NCgoingdry · 09/05/2023 06:20

Hi @Itsenoughnow I was going to start my own thread even if it was just to ramble to myself but if it's ok with you I'll join?

I did dry January this year with the help of a thread on here and I lasted three weeks before falling off the wagon. Those three weeks were the best I've ever felt so I don't know why I went back.

But - I'm the heaviest I've ever been, I'm tired, my face and fingers and bloated and I'm spending £7 a day on a bottle of wine. Then at the weekends it's my usual bottle plus a few shorts and I'm waking up I feel like I smell of alcohol and an anxious mess. Plus I look like shit.

I can't live like this - another year of this crap and I'll be a full blown alcoholic.

I started in lockdown like this and the habit never went away. I use drinking as a reward for a good day, comfort after a bad day, to celebrate, to treat myself, to wind down, to mark the end of the day.

Today is day 1. I know I'll feel lost this evening but will need to distract myself somehow.

Let's get back to "us" and not let it control us!

Itsenoughnow · 09/05/2023 05:41

Bringonthesunforthewashing hope you are ok sending support 😀

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Bringonthesunforthewashing · 08/05/2023 20:39

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Itsenoughnow · 08/05/2023 20:36

Hey Rightythen welcome aboard ! Like you I’m struggling with weight issues and I have always had to manage my mental health, I think it’s so easy to self medicate and I’ve been doing that for years, I’m now on day 4 and I feel a lot better in myself, my face looks less puffy and I find I’m actually getting stuff done as I think I used to just sit and drink after the children had gone to bed, it’s early days but I’m so chuffed I’ve made a start, sending positive thoughts xx

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UltraWarrior · 08/05/2023 19:11

Hi @RightyThen! Welcome
I’m about to order ‘alcohol explained’ as it gets good reviews on these pages.

RightyThen · 08/05/2023 09:47

@Itsenoughnow @UltraWarrior can i please join you both. I’ve tried and failed many times before but I need to stop drinking now I’m bigger than I’ve ever been, mental health is in bits and I cannot afford the habit any longer.
so today is the day :)
any reading recommendations from anyone please I’ve tried Allen care easy way but it didn’t click for me sadly

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