teenage drinking

[LisaSimmons1969]

My daughter comes home drunk almost every weekend. Is this normal? Someone help what advice can I give?

[WildStallions]

How old is she?

Where does she drink?

Who with?

How does she get home?

[LisaSimmons1969]

She is 14, she drinks at parties with her friends and she usually stays at a friends house. I do not know what she drinks. :(

[WildStallions]

Ok, the most important thing is she stays safe.

Ie only drinks with friends. She must always know what she's drinking.

And if she's nervous about any of the guys, don't drink.

If she's drinking in the weekends and staying safe there's no problem.

It only becomes a problem if she is drinking on school nights / hiding the amount she is drinking / doing stuff with boys she wouldn't do while sober.

So the most important thing you can do is keep talking to her. Don't judge her. And let her know you'll ALWAYS pick her up, from anywhere, if she needs to come home.

[VintageDresses]

I'm sure many will think this is the wrong way to handle it but I wouldn't be giving my 14yo the freedom to be getting regularly drunk. Where are the friends' parents at these parties?

None of my 14yo's friends' parents would stand for this and it's far from "normal" ime. A one off, maybe these thing happen, but regularly, no.

[LisaSimmons1969]

Well thats you're opinion, i will bring up my daughter however i like

[VintageDresses]

Your specific question was "is this normal?"

[PrimeDirective]

No it isn't normal. It isn't normal at all.
She is at risk of harm from this regular behaviour.
Have you spoken to her about it?
Do you think it is acceptable?

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