After a long hard journey with infertility, we are starting to have conversations about adoption.
I'm currently more open to it than my partner is, and have read up a bit more about it.
We haven't been to any information events yet, but my whole career has been working with vulnerable children and there is also a lot of trauma and various issues in my family history, so I have some idea what we might be getting into.
My partner is from a fairly privileged background and hasn't had hands on experience with traumatised children, alcoholism, drugs, and a lot of the socioeconomic issues that I assume we might come across when we start looking into this properly.
He is struggling with the idea of parenting a potentially traumatised child, which is very valid, but I worry if we don't consider it we might be closing ourselves off from so much potential love. He so wants to be a parent, we both do, and this might be the only way for us.
So is anyone in a couple where one of you struggled more with the idea of adoption than the other? What are your experiences and how did you decide in the end? Are you happy with your decision?
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
Adoption
Infertility to adoption journey
mochapip · 04/10/2023 16:26
Didkdt · 08/10/2023 00:51
Before taking your partner deeper into this journey, I would suugest a pause, you mentioned that you’ve experienced trauma and other things, it’s an avenue they’ll want to discuss with you before approval.
it might be worth (as they may ask you to anyway) having some counselling around this, it’s not just ticking a box but some behaviours and family stories, can stir up things for you and you’ll need the resilience
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