Section 20

[HammerToFall]

My ten year old daughter has been accommodated on a section 20 today. Just needed to say it

[darkriver19886]

Also a couple of books I would advise. I also have a free copy of one of them I could possibly send to you.

Dear little ones is a great set of books for child parts. You can find the first book for free on youtube.

Amongst Ourselves is a self-book for adults with DID but there is a section for supporters etc.

The book I was talking about is called The haunted self and there is also another one called Coping with trauma-related dissociation which I can send to you.

I can understand how scary this is for you but, she will be equally terrified. I hope you can find something.

[morallybankruptme]

Im sorry this has happened to you. My own kids were under section 20 for a week last year when I was away and dp ended up seriously ill in hospital and nobody to care for the dcs.

[HammerToFall]

@darkriver19886 thank you for posting. It's really helpful
To speak to someone who has this.

She doesn't believe she has it. When she is 'jodie' she is amazing lovely and kind. We can get through to 'baby' alter but 'angry' and 'cocky' are horrendous.

When she goes into angry she doesn't. Remember a thing but she remembers bits from the more calmer ones.

She will not have it that she goes into survival brain and the personalities take over. It's too scary for her to comprehend.
We think she has developed the alters to deal with things that 'jodie' couldn't as it was just too painful. I think it started as a baby when she was removed from birth mum.

She does have a book that she writes in but doesn't believe she has written the things that she does when she is 'angry' alter.

Thanks for the links I'll check them out. Any advice on how to approach things would be much appreciated.

[darkriver19886]

So my advice is this:
Record it if you can. I know it sounds sneaky but, it has helped me shatter my denial. I have a whiteboard in my living room and I write notes as I can't always remember what my alters are doing when they switch out. So I put a note up asking if some of my alters would record themselves. I sat and watched the ones did and it helped massively and whenever I experience the denial I go back and watch them again. Obviously, don't record it if they are massively distressed

I have over 18* parts. You have to remember when she switches she is no longer "Jodie" but the part who is present. DID is a traumatic disorder and is formed at key development. It is entirely normal to experience denial and often goes hand in hand.

I have an "angry" part in the form of a 13-year-old boy. The thing to bear with angry parts or persecutors is that they are protective despite the behaviour. Mine was formed due to constantly being denied help from the services and people that should have protected me from the traumatic circumstances of my own childhood.

The latest and current theory says that's everyone is born with separate ego states but, trauma can interrupt the development to become integrated and they form barriers between them.

This is not a death sentence for your daughter, many people with DID go on to be successful in life.

[darkriver19886]

Also, could you give the baby alter a soft toy? I have one and take it to therapy with me so the younger parts feel reassured.

[Ted27]

So sorry to read this

, the lack of support is disgraceful. I'm currently dealing with an issue related to my son's sibling who is in residential care. The issues are far less serious and immediate than your situation but I have been battling for a year now. I'm going to everyone I can think of, including the Children's Commissioner.
Dark river sounds like she has some great advice and experience to offer
I hope you can get some support soon. Take care

[sgnittes]

It sounds an utter shambles, I am sorry.

I would strongly recommend you go to beaconhouse.org.uk/ and discuss with their reception. They seem really good, and have clinical psychologists who specialise in these areas plus they work with psychiatrists and they will be able to explain about accessing adoption related funding and your options.

To help you to get an overview of the issues involved I would recommend watching this lecture - you will probably need ear phones as the sound is terrible and he mumbles, and you need to watch all the way through even though some of it may seem to be relevant - by the end you will have a clearer picture of what is going on and therapies available and it will help you when you are accessing help. I found what he said about dissociative disorders to be easy to understand and he talked about how and when it can happen and effective therapies.

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2NTADxDuhA

And finally this is a short video produced by the group I linked above - if you can get past the children's voices (!) there is a lot of helpful info in here about how they work and it also interestingly highlights how much damage the wrong kind of help can do, and how there is a lack of awareness out there even amongst therapists - emphasising that the right help is needed and an individual assessment needs to be done by someone with the right expertise.