Hi,
I was hoping to get some opinions on the chances of being able to adopt a child when DH and I already have two biological children. Our daughters are currently 5 and 3 but given we are only at the "thinking about it" stage I guess they would be much older if and when a child was placed with us.
I have always wanted a large family but I find pregnancy and birth very difficult so we decided to stop at two. To be honest I had never thought of adoption. Then I was watching a documentary about a month ago and there was this lovely family with two teenage girls and the parents had fostered, and hoped to adopt, a little boy. I was inspired by their story. The parents, the daughters and the little boy all seemed to have benefitted so much from what they were doing.
Since that programme I have done some online research. I am not naive. I know we would not get a baby and I also know that older children come with attachment issues which are very deep seated and complicated. What I have not found online is many stories of familes of four that are approved for adoption. Maybe that is because couples with two bio children don't often choose to adopt or maybe it is because SS asume they won't have the emotional capacity to spare. What do you think?
I am consdiering talking to our local SS but it would be great to hear what people on these boards think of our situation. Would we be an attractive proposition as adopters? Has anyone in a similar situation adopted?
The family in the programme I referred to had fostered their little boy originally and only later had they thought of adoption. I am not that attracted to fostering as I think regular changes of children would break my heart and be very hard on my existing children.
TIA.
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WardInJarndyce · 12/01/2012 15:09
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