Calling all mums of boys

[ArtemisBean]

DH and I have finally decided to find out the sex of our second baby at the 20 week scan in a couple of weeks. This will definitely be our last baby. We already have DS who is a complete joy. Obviously I will love and adore number two just as much regardless of sex, but I confess I'm feeling a bit apprehensive about having a second boy and being outnumbered for the rest of my life! 😂 I guess I'd expect boys to end up gravitating more to DH as they grow up, but maybe I'm wrong? If you have boys and no girls, tell me all the lovely things about it so I can get properly excited about the future! 😁

[WhoKnowsWhatsAroundTheCorner]

I have three boys - lovely, straightforward, warm, pleasant. Good fun. Lazy, but not manipulative. Getting towards adulthood.
I have one daughter. I really wanted a daughter. Opposite of above.

[hauntedvagina]

Two boys here. They are both incredibly affectionate and fiercely overprotective of their mum and each other.

They eat like locusts, they wee all over the floor, they like to fart in my face, they giggle at boobs, they never look clean, their hair is always sticking out, they despise wearing clothes in the house, but they are the funniest two creatures I've ever known.

Truth be told, if I could guarantee that number three would be a boy I'd possibly have had a third. Don't get me wrong, I adore my nieces, but I was made to be a mum to boys.

[ArtemisBean]

These replies are so amazingly lovely, thank you everyone! ♥️ I feel like two boys would be a real joy now. Lolling so much at the comments about farting and eating everything in sight 😂

[user1471538283]

I've only got one DS but we always have an open house so it used to be full of boys and sometimes girls. I've always wanted a "girls bathroom" though because you know boys. Now I will be getting one and we no longer have a houseful. I absolutely love having a son. We are very close and enjoy being together. I'm a woman and I much preferred being with my Dad than my DM. It's about personality rather than gender. You are going to have a fabulous time.

[stayathomer]

4 boys here, very much a crazy house but full of love and fun. Very stereotypical in that they love star wars marvel and lego, but I now love it too!! I think boys or girls it doesn't matter, kids are great!!

[spiderlight]

I have a 13-year-old DS. He's always been much closer to me than to his dad (not that he doesn't get on with his dad, just always gravitates to me). He's loud and annoying and incredibly funny and just like a big bouncy puppy.

[HUCKMUCK]

I have one of each but am outnumbered by boys now that DD has moved out and just me, DH and DS at home. DS is 15 and he's great. Funny, can be chatty when he wants to. I would say DS is equally close to me and DH - he talks to each of us about different things. He bonds with DH over techy gamey and bike stuff but I often overhear them having nice chats about life stuff while they are playing xbox!

He is very close to his sister but is quite quiet and shy around other adults. He is taller than me now and gives great hugs. You may need to up your food budget when they start to get to their teens!!!!!

[ContessaDiPulpo]

also brings up a lot of other complicated issues that I won’t be good enough, I just love her so much worry and that I will repeat the same mistakes. I think if I would have had a boy I would be a lot more laidback and have less Mum guilt (my Mum adored my brothers).

I felt exactly the same and was initially terrified at the prospect of having a girl, because I was convinced I'd mess her up royally. I didn't feel I had any mental model of how to love a girl and not just treat her as a substandard extension of myself. I now realise that you just get a child and you love them and it's fine, but it didn't feel like that when I was pregnant and fretting.

It's a crazy journey, this parenting lark....

[tsmainsqueeze]

2 boys 1girl, both boys tower over me now , middle one lets me hug /kiss him just about ! when he leaves for uni ,1st one no way , they love their nan , little sis and both love babies .
Not so keen on each other though , they were delightful , gorgeous little boys and even though i adore 3rd ,my daughter, looking back my boys were easier .
I have a soft spot for boys , great fun having a houseful of teenage boys visiting too .

[DaisyandRoses]

obv hypothetical girl would have been her own self as well. But there is something powerful about telling a small version of yourself that they are loved and wanted - it's like going back and hugging yourself as a child.

Really well put, it actually sums up how I feel about my DD (didn’t have a great childhood) but it also brings up a lot of other complicated issues that I won’t be good enough, I just love her so much worry and that I will repeat the same mistakes. I think if I would have had a boy I would be a lot more laidback and have less Mum guilt (my Mum adored my brothers).

Having children really does bring up a lot of issues from your own childhood!

[Hollywhiskey]

My auntie (in her seventies) has all boys. She is a widow. Her sons are so protective of her, after the eldest split with his ex he moved in with his mum to help her. She is very involved with all her grandchildren and helps out with childcare.
They've always been very close to her and see her often.

[ContessaDiPulpo]

I have 2 boys and my experience pretty much echoes a lot of what has already been said. I sometimes wish I'd had a daughter for complicated personal reasons. In brief: I generally didn't feel like I mattered to anyone when I was a child, specifically a girl child. Having a girl of my own (i.e. a smaller version of me) would perhaps have helped me to self-parent myself out of that way of thinking. I've found that treating my boys like they are valid people who matter works quite well too, though. So that's a good thing obv hypothetical girl would have been her own self as well. But there is something powerful about telling a small version of yourself that they are loved and wanted - it's like going back and hugging yourself as a child. I'm blethering slightly but hopefully you get the gist.

In short: you'll be fine and it'll be great, don't worry

[MistyMinge2]

I have two boys. They're complete Mummy's boys and we have a lovely bond. They're both very different. I did feel a bit sad initially when DS2 arrived at the thought of never having a daughter, but I'm over that now. They bring me so much joy (most of the time ). I wouldn't change a single thing.

[AHippoNamedBooBooButt]

3 boys here, 2 are absolute mummy's boys, one does prefer daddy. They are all so affectionate and full of love and its crazy and omg the playfighting is not fun, but i wouldn't change them for the world. I also have a (much older) daughter and have to say the boys are so much easier. I love my girl but wow she holds a grudge and can easily go a week without talking to anyone and giving the cold shoulder over something really minor (like nagging to do chores). My boys will have forgotten all about it within an hour

[HattonsMustard]

I have two teen sons. They are loving, kind, thoughtful, best friends and very close to both me and Dh although they are closer to me as I have been a SAHM since Ds1 was a toddler.

Hand me down clothes, Dh having to take them to the toilet when we are out, all great things. I honestly didn't care what I was having just that they were healthy and happy and I got that.

Don't believe sons are distant, daughters can be too but my giant 17 year old will still happily get into our bed on a weekend morning! Thank goodness for huge beds.

[MadisonAvenue]

I have two grown up sons, aged 23 and 20. They’re wonderful.

I go to concerts with my older son and me and my youngest son have season tickets for the football. I do get some female company in the house now as they both have long term girlfriends who we adore.

[Howmanysleepsnow]

My 15yo likes “doing” stuff with DH and shares some interests with his DF, but I’m the one he asks for advice (on behalf of himself and friends) and has more meaningful conversations with.
My 8yo is soppy and snuggly (and loud, and sporty, and outspoken). He is equally affectionate with me and dh, has shared interests with both of us and is hugely loving. He likes to tell me every detail of his life/ thoughts/ feelings.
My 7yo is a mummy’s boy, despite being by far the coolest kid you could meet. I’m the one he hugs, snuggles up to and kisses, the one he shouts at when he’s had a rough day (and immediately apologises saying he loves me and doesn’t mean it), the one who knows what’s on his mind and the only person he can be vulnerable around.
Boys are awesome (disclaimer: so is my daughter!)

[Arriettyborrower]

4 here, 27,24,13 and 10. All different but at the same time similar, all super loving, straightforward and have all been easy. The eldest two have loving and supportive relationships with their partners and recognise them as true equals.

My youngest loves wearing make up, has a man (boy?) bun and wears nail varnish in the school holidays but is also into skateboarding and gaming. He is also a staunch feminist and protests the fact that females have periods and pain every month and men don’t 🤣 he says he really doesn’t understand how men can’t see how easy they have it. Don’t know where that all came from!

Ultimately it is all about their personality not their sex/gender. I thought I had missed out not having a daughter but quickly realised I hadn’t, my boys are all different and bring different things to my life, their gender doesn’t change that.
Enjoy your boys x

[Quickchange5]

2 boys - very different -but best friends though I’m not sure they know it - both probably closer to me than their Dad

[LittleMissEngineer]

I only have one child, a boy, he is 10.

He is wonderful: incredibly affectionate, pretty sensible, very adaptable and easy going. Wouldn’t change him for the world.

Always thought I wanted girl, but doubt any girl would be as easy. Really wouldn’t swap in retrospect. 💗

[burglarbettybaby]

I love mine.. they are so affectionate and funny. I don't have girls to compare but congratulations to you.

[DaisyandRoses]

I have a little girl. But I have two brothers and they’re very close with my Mum when I’m not at all. She even said she wanted a ‘tomboy’ which explains it really!

[Delta1]

Two boys here too. 5 and 6. Super loving and cuddly and all about mummy although love hanging out with daddy too. I love the bones of em !

[stovetopespresso]

argh meant dont worry op sorry!!!

[stovetopespresso]

re the feeling outnumbered worry op. I have 2 of each. Big age gap between dd1 and the rest (different dads). our upbringing style has really changed since #metoo. dh and I really realise how important it is to bring up sensitive young men who realise the challenges women face and learn not to see life through stereotypical male eyes iyswim. so as long as dh onside.... congratulations!!