How on earth do you have sex when you have teenagers!

[Pitterpatterpotter]

It’s getting increasingly difficult! They go to bed late, dh gets up early for work and they often like watching films with us and spending time with us in the evenings which is lovely..... but we don’t often get time alone. Even when we are downstairs alone we could easily be disturbed and the floors don’t feel thick enough to have sex upstairs while they are awake without me being paranoid we’d be heard!
In 20 years together we’ve never had so little time for sex apart from when dc were tiny. Help! Any suggestions?!

[Pitterpatterpotter]

After over 20 years together, much of it exhausted with babies or toddlers, I have never had such a high sex drive which I’m not ashamed of! We have both worked outside of the home through lockdown so it’s definitely not because we’ve been at home together more, but I think lockdown has made me appreciate our closeness and as pp said sex can also be comforting.

[Pitterpatterpotter]

This thread has inspired me to ‘just get on with it’ and I’ve had more quiet or bathroom or 1am sex since I posed my OP than I have in the last month 😂😂😂

[Pitterpatterpotter]

@MintyCedric in theory mine knock but not always. The one with adhd sometimes bursts in enthusiastically without thinking and so does the little one.

[anothernamereally]

We have both toddlers and teens so someone always seems to be up and about especially now when routines are out of whack, we manage with a door lock, being quiet and accepting that if the teens do hear they will have to put their headphones in - we do choose late night or early morning though so it's not so in their face

[MintyCedric]

All this talk of locks and door wedges...do none of your kids knock?!

[Giningit]

@Hellokitty82 I didn’t realise that NOT having sex would stop people dying

[TheSunIsStillShining]

without reading other posts:

VERY QUIETLY :)

And mostly daytime when son is sure to be on headphones chatting and we make sure that it's after he has had some form of proper food, so won't come barging in with "I'm hungry!"

[witchofthenorth]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

I really hope that post was meant tongue and cheek....

If not, I'm sorry to piss in your cornflakes but ffs, just because there is a pandemic doesn't mean that people can't have a quick shag. Hold on till I tell DP that I'm not allowed to fancy him because of corona 🙄

[00100001]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

... on Mumsnet...in a pandemic??? Do you even care about the people dying around you????

[00100001]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂


Your house must be great fun.


Let's all sit here quietly, munching on our daily ration of gruel and think about the pandemic. No fun, frivolity or hilarity.... There's a PANDEMIC.

[AudTheDeepMinded]

We booked ours into a football club yesterday, they were very tired when they came home and all fell asleep quite early.
Just sayin'
(Oh What a Beautiful Morning! Oh What a Wonderful Day...etc)

[LunaNorth]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

People were having sex in concentration camps.

It’s comforting, pleasurable, and it makes you feel human.

Christ, don’t take that away as well.

[AskingforaBaskin]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

Honest question.

What do you expect me to do about it?
And why so any of that my direct problem?

What will help with Covid issues is a good orgasm.

[Emmelina]

Quietly, when they’re sleeping, when they’re gaming (headsets on, oblivious to the rest of the household!), when they’re out.

[LongAndWhiningRoad]

People are always dying and losing loved ones. If we all stopped having sex because of that, the human race wouldn't last long!

[Floralnomad]

I must have missed the covid 19 update where sex was banned , when was that .

[MitziK]

@Hellokitty82

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

All the more reason to be seeking out human connection and pleasure.

After all, we aren't getting the same day to day interactions with people (and those we do are stymied by masks) or physical contact. So it makes absolute sense that having sex/making love as part of reaffirming bonds, especially if you've been spending so much time together that certain habits could become grating (like watching fucking Nightrider and The A Team whilst I'm trying to work) and the alternative is planning the exact style of paving on your patio.

[Pitterpatterpotter]

I never said it was my main priority!! I have sadly been to 3 funerals since March and it’s been horrendous. As a teacher and a mum the future seems uncertain with regards to education. These are my priorities but that doesn’t mean I’m not also allowed to want to have sex! @Hellokitty82

[Hellokitty82]

I'm Amazed that during a pandemic people are this concerned about having sex!!!!
There are people dying, people loosing family members and friends, a second wave very likely and people on here seem to have their main priority as having sex!

[scentedgeranium]

This thread has made me chuckle. The teenage years were a definite dip in our sexual activity! We longed for our teens to go to more late parties etc than they did.
It passes, though Lockdown was a mean blow, returning our 22 year old daughter back to the nest.
Love her dearly. Really I do. But thank goodness she's found a job which keeps her busy Saturday and Sunday afternoons 😁

[quarentini]

Mine are adults now but we always had a private time routine.

Wednesday and Saturday nights and Sunday afternoon,we would go to bed early or read or whatever in our room.
We took wine and takeaway with us on a Saturday night.
The kids could disturb us in a emergency but other than that they left us alone, mostly playing on video games or listening to music or watching films.

[MitziK]

@Herja

On the bedroom floor rather than the bed? Only noise is you then, so just be quiet...

I'm so over carpet burns.

I did start having baths in the dark at 4.30am, though.

[Yerroblemom1923]

Book a night away once a month in a nice hotel. When are sleepovers allowed back?? Does anyone know?

[00100001]

I guess because attitudes have changed towards children's visibility of sex. I'm guessing nobody batted an eyelid and just saw it as part of life, like washing?

[witchofthenorth]

Just go to bed, close the door (lock preferable although we don't have one) and have sex. Our bedroom is next to the living room and my teenagers are normally up until the early hours watching nonsense on the telly. And very thin walls. Teen bedrooms are upstairs but you can still have sex. If the headboard is an issue, use the age old pillow between the headboard and the wall trick