Objecting to a wedding

[FuckKnowsMate]

Just idle curiosity, has anyone ever been to a wedding where somebody stood up and objected to the wedding vows for one reason or another? I've only ever seen it happen on dramatic soaps!

[CornishTiger]

No but I have been at a wedding where it was interrupted for a credible bomb threat. We finally got back to the ceremony 5 hrs later.

[Nellydean21]

Jane Eyre.

[Dicotyledon]

chicky how dreadful.

[Dicotyledon]

When I got married, the vicar gave us a very stern warning about how it was not a joke, would stop the wedding and if someone said it for a laugh they would be arrested.

[AfterSchoolWorry]

@morethanafortnight

Yes, but only as a 'joke' that backfired somewhat, and the registrar was absolutely livid and threw him out. The wedding then continued unhindered.

OMG, what a fuckwit. Sounds like one of those people who 'jokes' about bombs at the baggage check in. 🙈

[StCharlotte]

@Fluffythefish

I once had to prepare for a real threat of someone maliciously objecting. You HAVE to take it seriously and stop the wedding (not if you can totally tell if it is a joke but even so I might just to be sure). So we were primed with someone ready to take bride to one space, groom to another, organist to play and me to talk to the objector, reminding them that this was a criminal offence as due notice had already been given - the question is only for show now. The person didn't come and I don't think the bride knew anything about it. I'm not going to say why as I don't want it to be identifiable to her. I was so, so relieved when we got to that bit. And I always suggest that couples go for the "Due notice of the intention of bride and groom to be married has been given and no objection has been made." rather than the dramatic pause, just in case!

Until you said the bride knew nothing, I wondered if I was at that wedding. But "our" bride knew all about it as it was her quite mad MIL to be.

Incredibly tense.

[PerspicaciaTick]

I've been to one where the bride's brother objected as a "joke" and the registrar quietly and calmly forced him to shamefacedly stand up and admit to being an arse (my word not registrars) as objecting is a very serious matter.
The groom was furious and the brother looked like he was going to cry.

[UltimateWednesday]

When I got married the vicar advised we drop that part of the ceremony. Apparently there's no legal requirement for it and "there's always one joker".

[purplecorkheart]

No, but have been at a wedding where someone's mobile phone went off right at that second. Registrar was not impressed.

[crazychemist]

My DD caused a lot of laughter at that moment in a wedding by loudly saying - “look, a mouse!” (A toy one another child had) in that quiet moment. Never heard anyone ACTUALLY object.

[MalcomTuckerisMyIdol]

No but I was at a wedding where a huge thunderclap went over in the “pause”. We still laugh about it now (and sadly they are no longer married so maybe it was an omen).

[Chickychickydodah]

I have; registry office wedding. Grooms twin brother shouted up and caused a fuss as he didn’t want to live alone without his brother. Brides dad started a fight, police called, wedding cancelled, twins went back to living together Bride went back packing round the world ..

[DisobedientHamster]

Only in films.

[Georgielovespie]

@FuckKnowsMate he was fab, we didn't attend church at all, it wasn't the faith I was raised in either but he was all very laid back about it, he knew I had been put off church forever by being raised Catholic. I always show my children that clip in Sister Act where they sing the song two ways, the serious Catholic way and then the celebration style way with clapping. That was the church I wanted. His was similar, welcoming, happy, celebratory.

His church was also beautiful, local to my parents and where I was born and raised. We had a meeting with him and his two labrador dogs, had a massive chat and about a year later got married there. I told him the person doing the reading looked a bit like him so he could spot him, he said so I am looking for the most handsome man in the room then

[Bridehorror]

I've just name changed as didn't want it linked. But I was at a wedding with a very obviously pregnant bride, they were having the service and just before the lawful impediment bit the police and immigration officers burst in and arrested the groom for immigration offences. Whole wedding was canceled and we went to the small reception afterwards and all the guests got very drunk. Bride waited in police station in her dress for groom. They got married about three months later and then he left her about a week after the wedding. He seemed to think that a wedding certificate meant he wouldn't be deported but he did in the end. Bride now has a gorgeous 10 year old but hasn't seen the groom since he walked out after the wedding.

[FuckKnowsMate]

Ha! Some of these are funny @Georgielovespie your priest sounds like he was a good laugh!

I didn’t realise how serious it was to object but of course it makes sense with it being a legal Ceremony!

[Elderflower14]

When the banns were being read at church for our wedding (I was on my own DH to be was working!) As the vicar asked if anyone knew any reason etc etc the church warden coughed really loudly behind me and made me jump out of my skin!! 🤣 🤣 🤣

[Georgielovespie]

We had a truly lovely priest who had a wicked sense of humour. We had 3 ushers from Dh's university days (still all friends today) and when they said does anyone know of any just cause, for a laugh our ushers all looked at each other and then pretended they were going to stand, nodding at each other but didn't actually move.

We are facing the priest and he says, there are 3 people standing up. The congregation all looked round and then laughed but we were really worried that our three ushers had actually stood. They shit themselves thinking we would believe they were stood up and Dh would kill them

Dh and I both turned to see if they had stood and looked directly at them! They were mortified but it was a great day and just added to it. Sadly my priest died but I still remember him very fondly for that joke.

I have only ever seen weddings stopped on TV too OP.

[Kapalika]

I used to work for a vicar and loved asking these type of questions. In 25 years he had never had it happen, although there was a threat of it once happening. He told me how bloody serious it is. I mean that’s it, wedding over, bride and groom separated and questioned etc. As it’s a legal ceremony. I was quite surprised tbh, only seen it on television.

[AnnieMaul]

I work in the wedding industry so have attended 300+ weddings now and i've never seen an objection. Well aside from a well timed scream or gargle from a baby/toddler

The closest i've ever seen was a mother in law who made it very clear that she hated her sons choice of wife.

She snarled and tutted and rolled her eyes at every opportunity and sat amongst her own little friendship group talking loudly and obnoxiously all day so that anyone in ear shot could hear. This was before, during and after the ceremony.

She didn't attend the dinner or the speeches and went and sat on her own in her room instead, then came back and started being mean again in the evening.

Couple either didn't notice (impossible I think) or just didn't give her the satisfaction of acknowledging her behaviour.

As far as I know, they're still together- that was about 6 years ago now!

[Zhampagne]

The question isn't there so that anyone else who is in love with the bridge or groom can speak up. It's to stop either one of them entering into an unlawful marriage, e.g. bigamy.

[tara66]

Only in Jane Eyre.

[FrauFarbissina]

@morethanafortnight

Yes, but only as a 'joke' that backfired somewhat, and the registrar was absolutely livid and threw him out. The wedding then continued unhindered.

What did the person actually say and did the bride and groom say anything, did he come to the reception?

[Seriouslyconfused3]

I knew a (proper arse) of a man who planned to stop someone’s wedding before on the basis that he was in love with the bride- but thankfully he bottled it before the big day!

[BarbedBloom]

Well at my wedding when the registrar asked, my friend's little boy shouted, 'no' at the top of his voice, which was very funny