How to react when a woman steals a husband after thirty years

[RRollypoofoo]

How should one react when a younger model manages to entice an older bald, but just strangely very rich and powerful, husband from her best friend. Should I try to stay strong for her, but not get into any hatefest which always gravitates to the other woman.
Should I join in and almost engineer a night of maligning the cuckoo in what was my best friends nest.
It happened to me over ten years ago, my husband was enticed away by a younger model, this as it happens was the best thing that happened to me, which I did not appreciate at the time.
Should we ladies of older years just assume that an older powerful and rich man has the means to attract gold digging women with no morals or sense of any sisterhood and accept the consequences?

[purrpurr]

Mwahaha :)

[Delayingtactic]

purrpurr damn you woman! I have just spluttered tea on my duvet cover!

[GoblinGranny]

'It is strange how we blame the woman, when it does take two to tango.'

None of us are blaming the woman.
If an individual is in a relationship, then it's up to them to conduct that relationship in a respectful and loving fashion.
If they want to end it, they should do so in the same spirit.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

A husband cannot be stolen.
A jilted partner can be as angry as she wants with both people. Just listen to her and be supportive. You don't have to say much, in fact you shouldn't say much at all as your lifeboat analogy makes you sound insensitive in the extreme. I doubt that your friend would be happy to be called a sinking ship.

[BasilBabyEater]

Speak for yourself

I don't blame the woman for the man's actions.

She's only responsible for her own behaviour, not his.

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

Is this blog a creative writing blog? If so, no, don't think much of your story or the "my imaginary friend" angle.

[RRollypoofoo]

Pride you are right of course, they should have sorted out their marriage. My friend tried but to no avail, and of course he told her constantly there was nothing wrong etc. etc.
It is strange how we blame the woman, when it does take two to tango.

[RRollypoofoo]

Thankyou purrpurr I like poofoo.
I bow down to your knowledge of these threads and blog things.

[PrideOfChanur]

Weird. Agree - you can't steal a person.And said older powerful rich man can just say no to golddigger.
Are you implying the marriage is a sinking ship? In which case the solution is to sort that (for both partners)

[TheHerringScreams]

Ooh, never been in this topic before.

And, to XPost with everyone else, your husband wasn't stolen. He chose to go himself. It was his fault too.

[WandaDoff]

eh??????????

[AnnieLobeseder]

Well, I consider my husband to be a fully rational adult, so should he choose to leave me, that will be his decision and that is entirely where the blame will lie. The younger woman is irrelevant. Perhaps she has dubious morals, that's her problem (and will probably come back to bite her in the arse when he leaves her for yet another younger model).

There's no sisterhood about this, apart from you supporting your friend who is probably very upset right now. Some men are dicks, as are some women. People come in good and bad varieties, unfortunately.

[usualsuspect]

I've never been in bloggers before.It's nice and comfy in here.

[purrpurr]

Are you allowed unmonitored use of a PC, poofoo? I think I'll take me bikkies and tea elsewhere...

[RRollypoofoo]

Purr Purr perhaps thats just what they turn into when they get old and have their mid life crisis. They are led by their rod!!!!!!!!!!!!! (enough !!!!????)BOF

Apologies to you all for a strange beginning, but it got us all going at least.

[purrpurr]

Did you just call his wife a sinking ship? And the replacement woman, a lifeboat? ??? I need more choccie digestives before I can even figure this one out, stay right there OP.

[RRollypoofoo]

A man doesn't leave a sinking ship without a lifeboat.

[OrbisNonSufficit]

What Goblin said. And then purrpurr made me laugh by putting in a different way.

[BasilBabyEater]

A woman can't "steal" a husband.

Any more than a man can "steal" a wife.

People aren't property.

A man who has decided to leave his wife has made his own choices. He's not a passive piece of furniture who can be "enticed", he has to be willing to be enticed.

"Gold digging women" can only attract men who don't value the women they're with, but value the "gold digging women" more highly.

FGS, allow men to be responsible for their own values, beliefs and choices can't you. Just as women are responsible for their's.

[NotTreadingGrapes]

No, if they are married, they should stay away.

Fuxache what is it with the married-men thing this weekend?

[BOF]

What is your post about????

Your turn (hint: you need six question marks)

[RRollypoofoo]

Am new to all this and thankyou Caja, should have started this in chat.

[purrpurr]

You can't steal a husband, a husband is not a mindless object wandering around with his penis aloft before him like a dowsing rod, seeking a willing home, clean shirts and a gravy dinner. Pete's sake. Perpetuating stereotypes that don't help anyone.

[Portofino]

What Goblin said

[RRollypoofoo]

GoblinGranny gets it. Quite right you can't steal someone, but if they are married surely you should stay away.