I work for a large charity which in the last 3-4 years has really embraced wellbeing and mental health (MH) at work. We’ve introduced new policies to support MH, have had MH awareness campaigns, MH first aid training, and staff wellbeing is always on management’s agenda. This is all good and I’m very supportive of it – on a personal level I had a suicide in my immediate family so am very much support this change.
However I am started to feel dubious about how this wellbeing agenda is playing out in the work environment and the changes I’ve seen in the large team I manage.
The first thing I’ve noticed is the number of staff coming to me and (over)sharing their problems in this more ‘open environment’. People are telling me about their relationship problems, health scares, detailed arguments with their friends, debt issues, boyfriend breakups, family conflicts etc etc. I’ve always had good relationships with my managers but never shared much, even in stressful times (divorce, pregnancy loss, illness etc) because I never feel it was necessary or professional. Now things have really changed and I have people telling me about their feelings and experiences on an almost daily basis. I am a good listener but not a trained therapist and I also don’t have the time or energy to handle all this.
Secondly, so many people have come forward with stress, depression or anxiety (more than 50% of my team) and are demanding adjustments – these range from more flexible working, WFH, different work set ups, buying lights to help with SAD and changes to their work programmes. This is fine but it’s hugely time consuming to sort. It’s also causing issues with allocation of work. Our work sometimes requires last minute activity and those who are more vocal about their wellbeing won’t do it so the work always then has to be given to the willing or ‘resilient’ staff.
Finally wellbeing upmanship seems to happening a lot more in the last year. This is where someone claims their problems are greater than someone else’s. I was required to furlough a portion of my team this year and some staff came to me saying they ‘had to be furloughed’ because they ‘couldn’t cope’ with the current environment and I felt pushed into furloughing them over others. I think people forget that while the stress they feel is real it doesn’t mean they are more stressed than someone else. As a manager I have to be objective and assume that the staff member who lost a relative to Covid might be more stressed than the person who didn’t. But apparently, nope, I’m wrong – someone else is always having a harder time!
In summary, I very much support the MH and wellbeing agenda but find how it’s playing out a bit odd. Has anyone else noticed this?
Before I am pilloried, and I’m sure I will be, my team have generally been happy, the environment is not too high pressured, and before someone says I’m a crap manager I’ve had positive 360 degree evaluations and positive feedback from staff.
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Wellbeing agenda at work is causing weird behaviour
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Waferbiscuit · 20/02/2021 09:03
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