Movie/tv scenes that make you uncomfortable

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Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:05:58

I don’t mean in horror or thriller or torture porn but I mean things that are supposed to be funny

Watching a film on Netflix called The Switch

A woman wants to have a baby by sperm donor, throws a getting pregnant party, and the best friend switches his sperm with the real donor.

Supposed to be a way of him covering up his accident of spilling said sperm but to me this just feels uncomfortable. The man made it clear from the start he doesn’t approve of her using a sperm donation and this is a way of him getting his “win”

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Doyoumind Sat 27-Mar-21 07:09:19

I agree it's a weird and uncomfortable premise. Do they end up falling in love and being a happy family?

Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:10:40

No idea

Still watching tbh

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Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:11:56

But it’s a feel good movie so I assume so

In reality though, she would resent her so called best friend for messing up her sperm donor who she did research into and would never forgive him.

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BrutusMcDogface Sat 27-Mar-21 07:12:13

A “getting pregnant party”? hmm

It sounds horrendous and I have no idea how that storyline was allowed to be made into a film. Yes, I bet they end up being a happy family. 🙄

Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:12:46

I only pressed watch because it has Jennifer Anniston in it sad

I usually really like her films

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FlyPassed Sat 27-Mar-21 07:25:11

Yeah that is pretty gross. I really hope this kind of trope becomes as unacceptable as the 'hilarious' rape tropes in old films like Sixteen Candles.

Lars and the Real Girl (which everyone seemed to think was soooooo sweet) made my skin crawl.

Netflix made a show called Bonding, about a student who is a dominatrix in her spare time, to pay the bills. So hilarious!

They also have a show called Special, about a young gay man with cerebral palsy. The bit i didn't like involved him trying to lose his virginity and SPOILER he hires a prostitute, because why not, eh? It was a shame because it was apart from that I thought it was pretty good.

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Doyoumind Sat 27-Mar-21 07:27:54

Not a comedy and a film I've only seen once - I think when I was a teenager or no more than 20 - which made me feel uncomfortable then and now makes me furious is High Plains Drifter. That rape scene when she ends up enjoying it really confused me at the time and stayed with me. I know film buffs defend it with whatever justification but it feels indefensible.

EarthSight Sat 27-Mar-21 07:31:17

Soubriquet

I don’t mean in horror or thriller or torture porn but I mean things that are supposed to be funny

Watching a film on Netflix called The Switch

A woman wants to have a baby by sperm donor, throws a getting pregnant party, and the best friend switches his sperm with the real donor.

Supposed to be a way of him covering up his accident of spilling said sperm but to me this just feels uncomfortable. The man made it clear from the start he doesn’t approve of her using a sperm donation and this is a way of him getting his “win”

Yeah that's fucked up, and so specific I'm wondering if it was someone's fantasy :/

EarthSight Sat 27-Mar-21 07:32:14

Doyoumind

I agree it's a weird and uncomfortable premise. Do they end up falling in love and being a happy family?

Have you watched 'Overboard'? 80s film.

EarthSight Sat 27-Mar-21 07:32:35

@doyoumind

Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:38:02

Doyoumind

Not a comedy and a film I've only seen once - I think when I was a teenager or no more than 20 - which made me feel uncomfortable then and now makes me furious is High Plains Drifter. That rape scene when she ends up enjoying it really confused me at the time and stayed with me. I know film buffs defend it with whatever justification but it feels indefensible.

Yeah that’s fucked up

Shows that if a woman relaxes enough she will enjoy being raped

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NotBadConsidering Sat 27-Mar-21 07:39:34

Good Boys.

The running joke throughout the film is how a trio of 12 year old boys talk about adult things but are so naive, us adults watching get the jokes but they don’t see it themselves. Ha ha, kids don’t appreciate what they’re holding are anal beads, not a necklace like they think hmm.

According to IMDB the actors were just given the lines with no context and any questions asked were referred to their parents. To me, it’s still dodgy as hell, a group of child actors talking about sex, blowjobs and sex toys. At one point they’re told - by another child - a swing in their parents’ room is for sex. So regardless of how protected the actors are, they still learnt about sex swings FFS. I just thought it was gratuitous.

I know there’s a long cinematic history of child actors in adult situations. Jodie Foster talks about how uncomfortable it was playing a 12 year old prostitute in Taxi Driver.

Doyoumind Sat 27-Mar-21 07:41:59

I've just googled the plot for The Switch to answer my question. I don't think it's a spoiler to say it's predictable.

Queenoftheashes Sat 27-Mar-21 07:42:18

The rape scene in rules of attraction. I felt like it was treated really casually and like it was a joke. I didn’t really get it. It made me really uncomfortable. Obviously it’s meant to be satirical but it was a pretty realistic thing to happen to many women. Was I missing something?

EarthSight Sat 27-Mar-21 07:44:21

Yes - quite a few scenes from the Big Bang Theory are creepy and sleazy. A much older actor in his 40s being with a 19 year old actress was off (5th Element). Add to that the numberour film where the male lead its at least 15 years old older.

The Peep Show - and might watch another series as I like some aspects of it, but the female characters are definitely only objectified in the first series and one scene has one of the main characters batting the badminton shuttlecock far too hard at her head during a game because he's resetful she got a promotion. Then there's one of them lying saying his grandad's dead in order to get sympathy and a handjob. Probably that was the point of the show though really as neither character are portrayed flatteringly generally.

Friends - don't remember specific scenes but I found some of Joey & Chandler's behaviour quite sleazy towards their apparent female 'friends' at times. It's the kind of thing women ate expected to put up with under the excuse of 'Oh ignore him. He's a guy! Men are like that'

Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 07:54:50

Yeah I’ve always said about the Big Bang theory

I mean Penny makes it clear she has no interest in Howard and yet he still pesters her

It also shows that if you preserve enough, you will eventually get the girl. (Leonard and Penny)

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FlyPassed Sat 27-Mar-21 08:07:31

Oh yeah, The Big Bang Theory is horrible ( and terrible).

youtu.be/X3-hOigoxHs

The entire Ross/Rachel thing in Friends. He was so abusive.

m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/friends-joey-rachel-twitter-thread-ross_uk_598b0135e4b0449ed506d5ef

Soubriquet Sat 27-Mar-21 08:07:57

Just watched the announcement that he “hijacked her pregnancy”

Instead of waiting to do it in private...he announces it at a party because he had to get it off his chest angry

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Biscuitsanddoombar Sat 27-Mar-21 08:30:12

So many things in The Big Bang theory but my special 🙄🙄🙄 is reserved for the fact that throughout the show, Penny was one of the few mainstream female tv characters who was able to voice consistently that she didn’t want children (even though there were multiple scenes of Bernadette being a cow ti her about it) and then lo and behold in the final episode Leonard who really really did want children ‘forgot’ to use a condom and penny is pregnant. FFS on so many levels!!!!!

rookiemere Sat 27-Mar-21 08:36:13

The film Bad Bosses where the Jennifer Aniston character drugs her boss and then effectively rapes him. We stopped watching after that scene, it was disgusting but meant to be amusing because it was a woman doing it to a man.

FlyPassed Sat 27-Mar-21 08:49:12

Might help if I say what the link it!

Pop-culture Detective: The Adorkable Misogyny of The Big Bang Theory.

@Biscuitsanddoombar THAT'S how they chose to end the show?! Ffs!

youtu.be/X3-hOigoxHs

Queenoftheashes Sat 27-Mar-21 14:48:04

Yeah the fact that penny was “cured” of her ridiculous desire to remain child free left a bad taste in my mouth. Like it was just one more win for Leonard to squeeze out of her.

merryhouse Sat 27-Mar-21 14:56:10

Good lord, if that woman posted on Mumsnet we'd all tell her to seriously consider an abortion.

I mean, presumably she specifically decided she didn't want to use her friends sperm for this?

(Also - his accidental spilling of his sperm wtf??? Lends a whole new image to penis beaker)

TheMarzipanDildo Sat 27-Mar-21 15:01:44

That episode in poldark where they manage to justify semi-accidental wife murder- as in, you can tell they are trying to get you to root for the killer shock .Similarly the bit where Ross effectively rapes Elizabeth.

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