I am a bridesmaid for my friend, there are 2 other bridesmaids and 1 maid of honour. We have all met before but do not know each other very well at all. Our friend getting married is the only link between us.
Anyway, we were tasked several months ago with planning the hen weekend and we are still no closer to finalising it. Once the bride announced she would like us to plan it, I assumed the MOH would be in touch to get organising. I was a MOH last year and I planned the hen party.
A few weeks went by and didn't hear a peep out of her. So I set up a group whatsapp with the 4 of us and tried to get the ball rolling... nothing. I made suggestions and they would reply saying 'yeah sounds great, she would really like that'. We agreed she would love a long weekend somewhere hot (we already knew this as she had said).
But since then I have put forward everything; potential dates/flights/accomodation/prices to be met with 'yeah sounds great' but nobody else has put any actual suggestions forward. Not a single suggestion.
A couple of weeks ago I found an amazing villa, and put to them the cost along with the flights- they all said it sounded fantastic. In fact we even reserved the villa (free cancellation thank god). So with their approval I set up another group chat with the other ladies the bride would like to invite (10 in total) and put forward the plan there. Almost everyone said it sounded great and would need to check the dates. A week passes and I haven't heard back from anyone. I chase them up last night and almost everyone says it's too expensive- understandable but slightly annoying as everyone has known Bride would like to go abroad and have previously expressed genuine interest in going abroad in the last couple of months.
Then, 1 of my fellow bridesmaids complains that it is too expensive for her- absolutely fine but why on earth didn't she say before? When i suggested the villa? When I went to reserve the villa? When I said I was going to let the other ladies know about it? She was really positive at that point. I had asked what her ideal budget would be previously but she never bothered to reply.
I am about to loose my rag as no one has even bothered to come up with anything along this whole process. Even after saying the original plan isn't in their budget- they haven't bothered to look at alternatives. Last night I was googling cheaper alternatives until 1 in the morning. Maid of Honour has done nothing- although she has messaged me separately to say sorry it's all come down to me, she's never planned a trip abroad with so many people (NEITHER HAVE I!!). I am currently going through a very difficult time, my mother is very unwell and this week I have even been off work with stress. I work full time and have been caring for my mother some evenings and weekends- the other three work part time/don't work at all. People have told me to take a step back, but I honestly believe if I do, my lovely friend won't get any kind of hen party :( HELP!!!
Tonight I am meeting with bride to tell her how I'm feeling. I don't want to 'dob anyone in' but I am really struggling. I am so worried she will be disappointed :(
If you've read this far I salute you, tbh I feel a bit better after just typing my rant out!
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I despair- Fellow bridesmaids and MOH have done nothing
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Chitterchatter51 · 15/08/2018 12:35
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