I could post this under teenagers but my son is 22.
I just need to offload here and need some perspective.
My son is about to come home after 4 years at uni. He has a temp job whilst he applies for a grad job, due to start, hopefully, next summer.
Meanwhile, he wants to live at home as it will be cheaper and he can repay some of his debts, including £10K he owes us that we borrowed for him to do his Masters.
all this sounds fine except he has the most foul temper and when he was at home before we never stopped arguing. It got so bad when he was a young teen that we had to get professional help. It was driving a wedge between me and my DH as our relationship has always been rocky.
Last night, DS brought some stuff back from uni- and he was rowing with me within a couple of hours. all over nothing- moving his stuff out of the hall as I wanted to hoover up and he said wait- DH stepped in, to support me, DS went loopy, shouting and hollering that he would do it in a couple of minutes and to leave his stuff alone.
I walked away into another room and he followed me, shouting at me, trying to put his "case" over. I tried to close the door onhim saying I had walked away to avoid talking to him as I was fed up with arguing. DH came to intervene, DS pushed him away, all manner of shouting started, with DS telling DH that I- his mum- was behaving like a fucking retard.
Two hours later he drove back to uni, for a couple of days to finish his work, then he is due to come home again for months. I have said he can't and that he has to rent a flat.
I am almost crying writing this. I love him to bits but I cannot stand this. it makes me ill. I hardly slept last night and for 4 years when he has been away at uni my health has been better than ever,my career has taken off again. When he was at home before, I was often exhausted and just really miserable.
I feel so torn- I do love him, and I know he has a bad temper. I don't know whether we need to give him another chance, say a few weeks to settle in, or carry out what we siad, which is tof ind a flat. he will be going to work with DS as his job is in the same company, so it will be inconvenient for DH if he is living elsewhere as he would have to do a detour to collect him each day, I expect.
I just feel so fed up and he was only home for 3 hours.
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girlsnextdoor · 29/09/2008 09:20
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