Hi, as in the title, dd, 12 yrs old, wants to go to her friends house after school. Apparently they will be doing homework together which is news to me since she is not that keen on doing homework normally . I'm sure homework is NOT the real reason, they'll be doing anything but homework.
This is a new school and I don't know the girl and her family so not sure if I should allow or not.
I'm a working mum, my workplace is quite a distance away from home. Normally dd does several after school clubs at school and dh picks her up from school at 4.30 to take her to extra curricular activities.She finishes those activities around 7.30-8ish and at the same time I arrive home from work.
In primary school she used to go to child minder with some other kids from her school so the sociisation bit took place in childminder's house, in a controlled environment. Now I'm not very comfortable with the idea of her going to the house of her friend whom I know nothing about. But probably I'm being precious about it.
I don't want to be too strict unnecessarily but also I don't want to be too permissive readily either.
How do you get to know your secondary school child's friends?
I'm so decisive and sure of everything when it comes to giving advice to others, yet so indecisive for my own child.
By the way I cannot organise sleepovers or house meetings in our home for various reasons. One of the reasons is that I finish work late and get home around 8pm. So I can't invite her friends to our place to get to know them, which is inconvenient. There are other reasons too, but this is the main reason.
So, how do you check your teen's and tween's friends? What would you do?
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12 yo dd wants to go to her friends house after school and I'm indecisive
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DunnoWhy · 01/05/2018 16:46
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