My eldest son has just turned 15 and is causing misery in our household. He is incredibly self centred and often states he wishes he was an only child...he has 2 brothers and 1 sister. He is rebelling against eveything, complains constantly about homework and has a moblie phone permanently beeping with text messages. Every few days we have an almighty arguement, we apologise to each other and promise to try harder. He then reneges on any agreements reached and treats us all like dirt! He does excel at the guitar and has formed a band with a couple of friends but unfortunately he will not plan homework accordingly and spends his time rehearsing then getting upset because he runs out of time for homework deadlines. I am worried that his marks will suffer, he won't pass any exams, will not get a decent job and will therefore never have a home of his own!
Will this constant conflict pass or will we be destined to a life of misery? I try to avoid conflict but I feel he needs firm boundaries. The only thing is I keep relaxing the boundaries and he keeps pushing them. I am scared of alienating him completely and communication breaking resulting in him 'going off the rails'. I only hope the others all do not behave in the same way, at least not all at once?
How far do you let teenagers go? Any tips will be gratefully received.
Mears.
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mears · 28/03/2002 00:49
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