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Yet another wedding one - this time with rules!

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:20

Been invited to a wedding in late September.

Invite says that no heels are permitted and threatens plastic slippers for people who forget.

What the buggery do I wear on my feet? What kind of length do I go for with aforementioned shoes so that I don't look a frumpy frumpington?

I'm a size 14-16, 5'9, large bust and arse, fairly good waist. Blonde, very very fair skinned. Slightly gnarly toes from having broken them as a teenager.

Help!

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BackforGood · 06/07/2015 14:24

Why does it say no heels?

Is it on some kind of sprung floor?
Are they worried about you sinking in to grass?
Are the bride and groom vertically challenged and want to look taller ?

Might affect the responses.

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:25

I think it's to do with the floor in the venue. Bride and groom are ceiling scrapers so probably have never had to worry about heels in their lives.

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 06/07/2015 14:28

I'd be overjoyed with that, I hate heels. Although I also hate dress codes. Some smart ballet flats would be my choice, that's what I normally wear to weddings.

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 06/07/2015 14:29

Wedges?

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anotherdayanothersquabble · 06/07/2015 14:31

Wedges / platform wedges?

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:32

No wedges permitted either :(

Bride made a face and said nothing less than 2 inch square if I absolutely had to have heels but even then she's worried about the edges of the heels digging in.

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mojo17 · 06/07/2015 14:34

You can get plastic/rubber attachments to put on your heels to protect your heels sinking into grass and to protect flooring
So if you know the venue you vile phone them for advice

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mojo17 · 06/07/2015 14:34

Could phone them !

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:35

That's an idea mojo

I am considering finding another female who is going and asking what she plans on doing. Can't actually think of any at the moment though (guests are mostly DH's friends)

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MrsCampbellBlack · 06/07/2015 14:36

God, I always wear heels. I really loathe invitations with rules. But I am grumpy and would just not go.

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SirNiallDementia · 06/07/2015 14:37

I went to a wedding like this with a very very old floor that needed protecting. The venue gave out special thinks you stuck on your heels to protect the floor. might be worth investing in some so you can still wear your heels.

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Runningupthathill82 · 06/07/2015 14:37

Ooh I'd love that! Pretty flat sandals and a flowing maxidress?

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sebsmummy1 · 06/07/2015 14:37

I can remember an episode of Don't Tell the Bride where the Groom had a similar thing with a potential venue. I think it was a very old building and the floor needed to be protected.

Personally I would consider heels/wedges for the first part if the wedding and then change into flats for the reception (assuming the ceremony isn't taking place in the place that requires flats). If you need to be in flats all day then I really like gladiator style sandals. I think they look cool.

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MrsCampbellBlack · 06/07/2015 14:37

What venue has a floor with so many restrictions? Is it bowling or something?

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:41

Like pp have said, it's a really old stately home with original floors that need protecting.

Maxi dress and sandals then?

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MrsCampbellBlack · 06/07/2015 14:46

May be a bit chilly in late September for a maxi dress?

Very difficult to do dressy wedding clothes with flat shoes really.

I do think it is odd to choose a venue with such restrictions - brings a whole new level to the shoes off/on debates Wink

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FickleByNurture · 06/07/2015 14:58

I'm a bit funny about my arms and my overly unwieldy norks mean I'm unlikely to be wearing a strapless maxi. Probably need some sleeves on that thing. Maybe a cardi too.

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slithytove · 06/07/2015 16:18

Cork wedges or protected heels. Think asking the venue is another good idea. Seems like an unfair restriction on guests if there is a simple solution.

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Mygardenistoobig · 06/07/2015 16:23

ballet flats or flat sandals depending on the weather and if you want to show your toes or not.

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FauxFox · 06/07/2015 18:02

purple dress & lace pumps (lookie likeys are probably available just a style idea not suggesting you spend that!)

red dress & nude/silver

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Roseybee10 · 06/07/2015 22:37

I'd go for a longer dress and ballet flats. I don't feel confident wearing flat shoes with a shorter dress as I'm quite short and it makes my legs look stumpy but you'll probably be fine given you're much taller than me. X

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Losingmyreligion · 06/07/2015 22:45

Ring the venue.

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GinBunny · 06/07/2015 22:57

Old places often have this rule to protect the flooring unfortunately.

Oasis have some lovely midi dresses which imo look better with flats here here

I've got a midi dress that I wear with these Sandals

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GinBunny · 06/07/2015 22:59

In fact, this is particularly lovely here

I need an invite so I can wear it Grin

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