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Northernlurker Thu 11-Nov-10 23:54:50

I'm going to my sister's wedding in a couple of weeks. It is a very, very small 'do' - dh and kids are not coming. The wedding is in the registry office and then meal afterwards at lovely gastro pub. The reason for all this is that my bil has been diagnosed with aggressive lung cancer. It's terminal.

Obviously the day is going to be hugely emotional and I don't need anything complex to think about. My sis is wearing trousers and a light coloured jacket with nice hair and flowers and special shoes grin

I have brand new wide black trousers which I was thinking about wearing with new black ankle boots (which I will need to find). I need a top and probably a scarf because for warmth I think I will need to wear my long black jacket. Obviously I don't want to look like I'm going to a funeral but I can't really buy a new coat as well sad The only other thing I have to wear is a navy pinstriped suit but I don't want to wear that as it is not all that warm, is very plain and the last time I saw my sis I was wearing it to attend our cousin's wife's funeral (yes - it has been an awful year!)

What do you think? What would you wear/

Vesta1 Fri 12-Nov-10 00:30:13

if you really don't feel like investing in something else, then make up with your top, scarf, a bright lipstick and a positive attitude

gomez Fri 12-Nov-10 00:35:50

Do you have decent legs? Ditch the new top, get a tunic and some decent tights. Rather than ankle boots, a pair of mid-calf boots to match tunic and tights.

Has potential I think?

Chin-up!

lowrib Fri 12-Nov-10 00:38:37

I think your idea of the black outfit with a brightly coloured top and scarf would be fine.

If give us a couple of clues as to what you like / what suits you and maybe what your budget is, we'll see if we can find anything online for you.

Northernlurker Fri 12-Nov-10 08:06:48

No legs are not good grin

Budget for top and scarf - about £60 I guess. I am a size 22 and my buttonhole has been ordered in wedding colours of white and purple - quite bright purple - freesia.

Vesta - it's not that I don't feel like buying something. It's just that I'm short of time to do so - work all week and dh is away this Saturday and people coming round on Sunday. I also can't outdress the bride and anyway whatever I buy I'm always going to know why. It's all very hard. Does anybody know who stocks positive attitude? smile

Vesta1 Fri 12-Nov-10 09:36:44

I understand. I still believe you can dress up the black and don't look "funeral-y" at all, esp. since you can take the jacket off inside.

As to the positive attitude, sometimes it pays to fake a little, try to forget the "bitter" part and concentrate on the "sweet" one, it's a celebration of love, after all.

Hope you all will have a beautiful day and the weather will be on your side

tethersend Fri 12-Nov-10 09:48:26

How about these boots with this blouse and this or this scarf?

piprabbit Fri 12-Nov-10 10:11:28

Take a look at MandCo - they are doing lots of purple at the moment and I get lots of positive comments on their plus-size range, always to seems to fit very flatteringly.

Here are their purple accessories.

But take a look at their tops too as they seem to have some discounts on at the moment.

BTW - have you thought about a chunky cardigan instead of a jacket? Might be cheaper and also easier to re-use in future?

Constance39 Fri 12-Nov-10 10:21:39

I would try to minimise the black, to be honest - it is a sad situation of course but as you said you don't want to look too funeral-y.

Of course the black coat will be fine if you don't have another one - but I think I would try to avoid wearing black trousers too.

I'd try and go with some calf or knee boots, brightish tights, and a long jumper dress or similar.

I know how very hard it is to buy clothes for an event you feel so unhappy about, I had a real struggle buying funeral clothes when my friend died - I developed an absolute aversion to black, it was the last thing I wanted to wear.

In the end I wore dark grey and black, with dark green boots as I didn't have black shoes. it was a horrible time though and I couldn't find any positive attitude either. So I do understand where you are at.

nickelbangBANGbang Fri 12-Nov-10 11:24:00

what about a long cardigan instead of a coat?

it'll be cheaper and very warm, and you can get some lovely bright colours.

like this in red

this in brownish

this is lovely but out of your price range

this one looks more like a coat

nickelbangBANGbang Fri 12-Nov-10 11:24:57

sorry, i skipped over the buttonhole thing! blush

the last two would work in colour, though.

lowrib Fri 12-Nov-10 17:51:03

How about this - lovely purples and pinks - £35.

Lovely silk fuschia tunic from Monsoon - would look good with black trousers - £75

Very pretty in pink! Blush flower tunic

Are any of those even remotely in the right area?

I like nickelbangBANGbang's cardigan idea BTW.

lowrib Fri 12-Nov-10 17:51:34

Oh, that last one was £45 by the way.

lowrib Fri 12-Nov-10 17:56:22

What are your thoughts on full-on prints such as ...

Very 70s £35

Art Nouveau style £30

Purple paisley tunic £30

motherinferior Fri 12-Nov-10 17:56:38

I've just looked in to wish you all the best. What a poignant wedding. I do hope it goes well.

Northernlurker Fri 12-Nov-10 18:33:15

Thank you all so much! smile I probably should have mentioned that I'm short so tunics can be tricky and a H cup bust so that things that go up to the neck and knitwear in general can be a bit errrrr problematic!

I just really appreciate you all looking and it's given me a lot of food for thought especially the prints. I'm flirting with looking for higher bots and a dress hmm

I like this which has the purple in it. What do you think? Or maybe I should be brave and go for this

Oh and motherinferior - your message made me cry. Granted it doesn't take much atm. I wish it was tomorrow actually even without anything to wear. This evil thing is moving too fast for us sad I know why they call it malignancy.

geordieminx Fri 12-Nov-10 19:09:29

Evans have some really mice yobs in purple. Lovedrobe.butterfly, knotted neck line top and paisley print.

If you search on tops then filter in purple?

traceybath Fri 12-Nov-10 19:22:14

Firstly - wishing you all the best for the wedding - what a dreadfully sad situation sad

Secondly, here are some suggestions

velvet top to go with your trousers

dress - their sizing is generous and 20% off at the moment

amethyst dress

Katherine329 Fri 12-Nov-10 20:11:21

How about this amethyst dress? £45

"Scoop Neck Cap Sleeve Pleated Dress"? Two left in size 22 online. Colour called Bright Magenta but looks amethyst-y to me. Also darker purple available.

www.marksandspencer.com/Scoop-Neck-Sleeve-Pleated- Dress/dp/B00458QARA?ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_2&sr=1-2&qid= 1289592220&pf_rd_r=0QKKJ6FS99XEHZZD3ADZ&pf_rd_m=A2 BO0OYVBKIQJM&pf_rd_t=301&pf_rd_i=0&pf_rd_p=2154858 07&pf_rd_s=center-3

So sorry about the circumstances but hope the wedding day goes really well.

KristinaM Fri 12-Nov-10 20:19:50

a jersey dress would be perfect - flattering to curves and smarter than a tunic and trousers i think

do you have shoes that would work? then you could use all your budget on the dress

lowrib Fri 12-Nov-10 21:35:04

The second Boden link hasn't worked btw. Was it one of these by any chance, I think they're nice

purple printed top

another nice purple printed shirt

Northernlurker Sat 13-Nov-10 08:40:25

They are nice but I find shirts a bit problematic with the bust. The link was for the wool dress that TRacey also linked to smile

lowrib Sat 13-Nov-10 11:14:36

The dress is lovely, really nice smile

<sending positive attitude vibes>

motherinferior Sat 13-Nov-10 11:17:46

Is there anything nice in Bravissimo that would work for you? Given that it specialises in big bosoms?

motherinferior Sat 13-Nov-10 11:21:21

I have dress http://www.marksandspencer.com/Autograph-Weekend-R uched-Drape-Jersey/dp/B0044AJ6UW?ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_ 3&sr=1-3&qid=1289647180&pf_rd_r=105T13MRD6DQ5PE9G5 H0&pf_rd_m=A2BO0OYVBKIQJM&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_i=7262 5031&pf_rd_p=215570647&pf_rd_s=related-items-3 in brown, and it is absolutely wonderful - I am definitely on for the purple. None in 22 but one in a 20 and their sizing is VERY generous...

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