Hello all.
I have two boys, aged 11 and 9 from previous marriage. My DH has a son from previous marriage. We have a 3 year old daughter together.
All in all we are good. Have been together for 6 years. DH is a great dad and a stepdad for boys.
Problems start when his son comes over. He is a nice kid, no better or worse than most of the kids his age. Having a close gap all boys are kinda similar.
All can be great, wingy, mean, helpful and etc. Normal pre teenage behaviour.
But what drives me crazy is DHs attitude to my SS. According to him, he does no evil, sees no evil, says no evil.
When there are only my older boys with us, he disciplines them (rightly so), tells them off, makes them do chores. Sometimes is mean to them (I guess we all snap). Normal parent behaviour.
But when SS comes over, my DH NEVER tells him off, never makes him do things, his son is always right and generally he has a view that his son is a perfect boy.
Which he is not. He is a normal pre teenage kid, with ups and downs. And he needs discipline like all the other boys.
Most of the times I feel like a bad cop of the family.
I’m reasonably strict with DS1 and DS2 and DD. I am exactly the same towards SS. ALL of the kids love me and respect me.
But DH goes from normal parent to Disneyland dad every time his son stays over.
I can deal with it for short periods of time, managing the situation and explaining my sons why DS changes attitude. But 6 weeks of summer holidays are challenging.
If I mention anything to DH - he blows up and we have a major argument.
What makes me mad the most is that other kids see this change and obviously ask questions.
I do have to say that DH is generally great with all the kids and is wonderful. His son stays with us all the holidays and due to distance DH goes to where he lives (rents a hotel) every month for a week.
Anyone had a success explaining their DH that this is not right?
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Keykeche · 06/08/2019 15:51
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