Hi, Thank you for reading. I have been with my fiance for 4 years we have a 3 years old and a 8 months old. I just wanted to ask what to do when your partner's son is not a good influence. His son is 11and lives with us apart from every other weekend and Thursdays. He is rude, needy, and has an anger issue. He is extremely selfish and nothing is good enough for him. I am considering leaving the man I love and the father my children adore because of him. I don't have a break from him. In the beginning I was expected to do more than his mum would have ever done for him, but after he being disrespectful and me having big arguments with my partner and mother in law because of him I couldn't cope no more so I distanced from him. I hate being around him, if his dad isn't home he will be in his room ignoring my children and doing whatever he wants. When his dad is at home he will be more needy than our 2 together, will interrupt conversations, will make everything possible so I can't be close to him and what pisses me off the most is that he only teaches bad things to my son so he has something to report back to his dad and get my son to be told off. He won't do nothing in the house but urinating all over the bathroom floor, eating food in secret and hiding wrappers everywhere... I know
he is a child, those are not big things... my problem is that he has an anger issue and he can be really disrespectful towards everyone, his grandmother even his dad. He can be aggressive too. I don't shout to my children or any human being, my parents were alcoholics and I get really stressed with shouting as reminds me the hell my childhood was. He shouts at my son and gives him orders all day long shouting commands as if he was a dog. for example if he doesn't want him to be in his room he would just shout OUT. Even if he is seating in the floor doing nothing, if he doesn't move he pushes him out of the room and closes the door, my child is outside trying to get in and saying open please open please and he's behind the door so he can't get in.... I have spoken to his dad for him, he doesn't do anything wrong, the way he talks to that child is way softer than the way he does to our 3 year old same with discipline... He says is because he is the only one who loves him home so he protects him. I don't want my children to be like this child, I love that my partner wants to do the best for his son as the mother is not good but this is putting a big strain on our family ....
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