BM rant!

[lilbeemumma]

So DH drove my SS home to his BM's house after training tonight... of course she answered the door wearing nothing but a skimpy towel... right at the time he said he'd be there. Of course her fiancé wasn't there either. WTF is wrong with some people!! Sorry for the rant - fed up with dealing with 40yo children.

[AndNoneForGretchenWieners]

Ah my DH's exW asked him if he fancied a shag for old times sake at our wedding reception. Some people are just dickheads. What was your DH's reaction?

[Karigan1]

Lmao I get it the other way round and the new woman is always dressed to the max whenever she knows I’m going to be around. And I’m really not interested. Insecure much

[Winteriscoming18]

BM? You mean DM

[Palavapalava]

I’d be annoyed too but what was his reaction?

[TheShaniaTwainExperience]

Why tf are you calling her BM

[Palavapalava]

What is bm?

[PointyBirdsAnointyNointy]

Birth mother Palavapalava

[Gazelda]

BM is pretty offensive as a term.
But be reassured that he obviously ignored her attempts and came straight home and told you. She probably feels a fool now, whereas you should be feeling secure in your relationship.

[Whambarsarentasfizzyastheywere]

I've answered the door to all sorts of people wearing a towel that, due to the size of my arse, could be perceived as skimpy.

I stay in the bath as long as I can when I get chance and I don't really care if anyone sees me in a towel.

I presume there's a huge backstory that probably has something to do with you calling her bm

[lilbeemumma]

Sorry peeps, I thought BM (birth/biological mum) was the right term. No offence intended. My husband's ex and my stepsons' mum. Need some educating on acronyms 😂

[Winteriscoming18]

It’s used in relationship to adoption not to reference a child’s mother who lives with there DC

[Palavapalava]

Thanks pointy!

I agree, he came home and told you. Unless you think he enjoys her trying to seduce him I’d just be happy he has been honest and it got her precisely nowhere!

[FlippingFoal]

It’s used in relationship to adoption not to reference a child’s mother who lives with there DC

Except when the mothers themselves use it to clarify that the child came out of their vagina - then it's OK...

[swingofthings]

Did he tell you or were you there. If he told you why would he do so knowing it would annoy you?

[DarthNigel]

Or had she just got out of the bath, reasoned that the man has seen her naked before (in fact probably saw her give birth) if she even thought about it at all, and just answered the door as was convenient?
Perhaps she isn't hung up on people seeing her in a towel? I opened the door to the post man in a towel the other day-i wasn't trying to entice him in for a bunk up-I just wanted my parcel...

[Justoneme]

😂😂😂

[WashingMatilda]

I think you're overthinking this OP, and I say that as a SM with no kids of my own.

[user1493413286]

Guessing she must have form for stuff like this? I’d just laugh though.
Ps. People on mumsnet really hate the term birth mother

[Cabininthewoods69]

I thought bm was bowel movement

[SciFiG33k]

Hahaha bowel movement. Must admit ive called DSDs mum nicknames of bowel movements before behind her back. Thats probably what id call her to DH if she answered the door in a towel

[Cabininthewoods69]

I honestly get like a right idiot when I found out what it meant. Bloody nursing background does this

[SandyY2K]

BM is pretty offensive as a term.

I don't find it offensive.

[ohreallyohreallyoh]

I find it deeply offensive. My children live with me, I am very much a part of their lives. I am not a bad parent. I did ‘t Ask for my children to have a step mum. I have not given up any of my legal rights. I am their mother.

[TwoDots]

I don't find it offensive either....especially when the op doesn't mean anything bad by it

[SandyY2K]

I gave birth to my DC....I am their birth mother.

There's far too much unecessary taking of offence at times.... and if you find something offence. .it's best to speak for yourself. ..not every mother on the planet...or even on MN.