What is the best course of action when your partners 13 year old daughter brings up our finances and mentions about child maintenance more than she should?
For instance, when discussing us buying her brother a jumper who is 21, has his own flat and a full time job, she said that he couldn’t buy clothes himself as for 1, he’s on minimum wage and 2: he’s paying all his bills himself as his girlfriend who lives with him doesn’t contribute anything as she is still in university (although she works night shifts so does have money coming in), while we have a joint income. Does anyone else find this response very cheeky and rude for a 13-year-old?
To give a little bit of background on us though, I’ve gave birth to our daughter a few weeks ago so I’m on maternity leave so my wages are very poor. We also moved into a new house together a few weeks before the baby was born. So, my boyfriend is mostly paying the bulk of the bills for the time being until I go back to work and is also paying maintenance for his daughter.
She has also brought up maintenance payments that my boyfriend is paying her mother, which she shouldn’t know anything about. She said the other day that the pocket money she gets each week is the difference that her dad is paying extra to her mother after it increased when he had no dependents living with him anymore. However, with the birth of our daughter the CM will be calculating it as lower again.
How have you dealt with situations like this? Should you not mention anything and hope that in the future she’ll think for herself and stop bringing up things that don’t concern her?
Or answer that our finances are none of her business?
Has anyone else had any experiences with this type of behaviour?
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young teen step daughter who thinks it's acceptable to talk about our finances
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timelord92 · 18/10/2017 11:42
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