Hi, I'm now 10 weeks pregnant with my first baby (soo excited!!) I have a stepdaughter who is nearly 10 and is extremely excited to be having a brother or sister at long last! I've been with her dad, my husband for 8 years and me and my SD have a great relationship. I've always treated her as my own altho in more recent years have acknowledged that I will undoubtedly feel differently towards my own baby when it comes along because of the natural bond.
I've always been clear with my husband that I know my love for my own baby will be different to the love for my SD but as long as she doesn't ever feel that I think it's fine. I should mention that we have SD every other weekend and extra in school hols.
My current worry is not with my SD but actually with my husband. Whenever I mention being excited to just be at home with hubby and our baby when it comes he always pipes up 'don't forget SD'. It really puts a downer on how I'm feeling and makes me feel like he's expecting me to turn into a horrible stepmum who will push the SD out. I don't want that but equally I don't want us to feel like we can't do special things with our little one because it's not our weekend to have SD etc. I don't want to have to schedule all the fun things for my children and family things around when their big sister is with us......is that mean of me?
I think of things like taking advantage of holidays being cheaper before they start school etc which will obviously mean that we would go without my SD.
Interested in people's thoughts please! Am I being mean about this?
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RamboBambino2016 · 06/04/2016 22:06
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