This is my first post on this board so be gentle.
I've got a dsd aged 10 and a dsd aged 7. Also two dd aged 9 and 5 (not with my dh), and a baby.
My dd9 has autism. She is high functioning and mostly just finds social relationships difficult, although she is very keen to have friends she's hard to get along with as comes across as quite immature, likes things to be her way and doesn't 'get' how to play with others often.
I am protective over her for obvious reasons and hate to see her left out, she is more aware as the years go by that she's struggling. Dsd10 is (in my opinion!) a bit of a madam. She has always been like this (known her for almost 5 years) and although I have always liked and cared for her I do find her overbearing and a bit sly, she must always be first, always be the best, always have the most etc. I understand some kids are just like this and also that she's just a child and all we can do is try to teach good manners, to be kind, to play nicely etc.
In recent months she is excluding dd9 more and more when they are all together (every other weekend). She appears to find dd9 a little embarrassing and deliberately leaves her out of games and activities. Dh has tried to talk to her about ensuring everyone is included but it makes no difference. I have now started to actively dislike her because of this and am struggling to stop getting upset because of the way she treats dd9.
I really don't know what to do. I've tried to discuss with dh but he just says he'll talk to her again, which accomplishes nothing. I feel as if I need to split with dh to protect dd so she doesn't have to be made to feel like a loner in her own home every other weekend. On the weekends we don't have the dsc everything is fine and dds play nicely together. I have tried to talk to dd5 about this but she's a little young and just gets dragged off with dsd. I'm trying to be fair and not just assume it's all dsds fault....but it is!
I feel sick after the weekend just gone, watching dd being sidelined yet again. She can be difficult I know but she's also lovely, caring, enthusiastic and kind.
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Fuzzygel · 10/03/2014 14:24
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