Well he came.....J went into one as soon as he arrived.....poor little love just cant bear anyone unknown coming into our house. Obviously I was very aprehensive especially when J started to get the hoover out and proceeded to hoover the lounge carpet where CP was sitting!!!!!Finally dh prised hoover out of J's grasp and frog marched him off to the park with the CP and I started on the form filling in peace and quiet.
CP returned looking a tad dishevelled and we made a start on the early years.
Slightly difficult to give precise info about the preganacy and birth, beings as I wasnt present.....bloody social services are so bad at writing up important info about such important parts of a childs history. Managed to dig out as much info as I could and we got down to business.
broke for lunch at 1pm.....a much needed break from all the endless questions.....had a few good tears in the loo whilst dh showed CP around our garden. I felt such a crap Mom....there were so many early warning signs that I had missed....I was fool enough to believe what our HV had offered as explanations for J's bizzarre toddler behaviour. How I wished I had found this site back then...how I wished I hadnt been so bloody naive and gullable.
J refused to eat lunch with us....he will not eat infront of others at home because he uses his fingers to eat....dh made him a sarnie so he wouldnt have to worry about eating Jkt spuds with his fingers and so finally he agreed to join us at the table. CP had a good chat with J whilst we were eating....J didnt chat back....just grunted every now and then in response.
Round two stared at 2pm.....even more questions and finally at 4.45 we finished.
DH and CP have now gone off to the breach and i am getting supper prepared....CP leaving at about 7ish....
His summary so far.....J does not have Aspergers...as I suspected because of his language delay. J does not have HFA because he has a low IQ and specific learning difficulties. What he does suspect though, and I must admit I agree,J has Autism....just plain old Autism. He said not many children are dx with it nowadays....Paeds are preferring to use PDD or Aspergers,but in J's case he feels a dx of Autism would be the best and most acurate.
Im not sure how I feel.....sad because he explained it would be highly unlikely that J would lead an independent adult life and driving a car would be nigh on impossible for J.
Relieved that at last I know what we are dealing with.....birth father has a history of szchophrenia....so it had always niggled in the back of my mind, what if?????
Nothing has changed...but some how I just feel a lot calmer....like I knew I was right and that I am not the neurotic silly moo the paed had made me out to be.
Just have to wait now for the report to come in....then I'll be making an appointment to see the Paed to discuss with him the dx made by someone who knows what they are talking about.
So tired emotionally and mentally.....glass of red wine waiting for me on the kitchen work top...and I feel I need it tonight.
Thanks for all your kind words.
JMxxxxx