I have gone from definately is to definately isnt , back and forth. i just dont know anymore.
After looking in to it all though , i can see how ds1 (16) is the one who absolutely ticks all the boxes for aspergers . i always hated the fact when he was little that he didnt behave like all my friends kids but i was so young and had no idea Autism even existed ! He talked in a posh voice (we r defo not posh) , he lined things up, he never mixed (just this last year started to have friends ) he would go beserk if i moved anything from its usual spot in the house , took a different route with him in the buggy . massive tantrums for no apparent reason aswell. talked at us on and on about one subject for YEARS and lots more . but, he is extremely intelligent and very happy how he is.
i wonder if it makes it more likely ds2 is asd ? he is quite often not happy. my gut feeling has always been that something is not right. how come all the others coped with the move to high school , how come none of my friends kids are having massive meltdowns and smashing up the house ? he spent the first year of high school threatening to kill himself on and off . After moving him to another school he still hated it, his books all had pictures drawn on them of him with a gun and a coffin
after he has gone crazy he then hates himself and tries to prove how i mustnt love him anymore . he lies , he doesnt learn i.e he joined facebook when i'd said no . gave him consequences and deleted account , he was crying and sorry but then we had the whole same scenario twice more . same with using phone for internet and porn.
has stolen money off us a few times .
went ballistic because i wouldnt let him pack his suitcase for a holiday miles in advance and then said he wanted to take EVERYTHING with him from his bedroom.
has improved at school but previously was not making any effort (they said) distracting others , shouting things out and winding other kids up and not really getting on with them .
was in trouble last week for calling a girl something racist (he says he didnt know it was racist)
and apparantly it all started because the teacher allowed the girl to use a calculator so ds2 shouted out 'cheat cheat'.
extemely selfish , has from about age 6 badgered dp every weekend relentlessly to take him to do whatever the current hobby is .
we are currently on fishing , but its also been bmx bike riding and he once wanted to be a window cleaner and that became all consuming . dp ended up going to a wholesale place while ds2 spent all his birthday money on pofessional equipment . not to mention the 5000 buckets he accidently won on ebay on dp's ebay account .
had a robin hood obsession as well resulting in dp travelling miles looking for 'bendy' wood to make a bow and arrow.
sorry , really gone off on one here lol