Ok, I'm looking for help/experience from anyone else who can relate to my dilemma.
I have twin boys who will be 7 in December. Both are Statemented, both attend a Special Needs School. They are the same class, which consists of about 8 pupils.
I also have a daughter (8) who is "normal", NT? She attends a different school with a class size of 30plus.
Twin 1 is desperate for a "proper" birthday party this year. He wants a Pizza Hut party like his sister had recently, or a soft-play party like she had the year before.
Problems:
- Twin 2 has many more problems than Twin 1. Parties and unfamiliar situations freak him out, massively.
- Even if I invite the whole class, I'm very doubtful if anyone would attend to the kind of party Twin 1 is proposing and he would be devastated. Twin 2 wouldn't care. I don't have any other friends/family to make up numbers.
- As it's a SN school, the twins get transported by Council Bus there and back, so there is no opportunity to meet and sound out the other parents in their class for opinions
It's a minefield. Although Twin 1 thinks he is normal, he's not, and he's questioning so many things like this now. I just don't know what to do.
Do I book a venue, invite the class and hope for the best?
Or explain to Twin 1 that it just can't be done?
The type of people in their class cannot be left at a party on their own. Many have complex needs (learning difficulties, epilepsy, cerebral palsy, wheelchair users). My own home is too small and Twin 1 wouldn't be happy with a party at home anyway.
Sorry it's an essay. Didn't want to drip-feed.