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What age did you put dc in own room?

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roslily Mon 26-Oct-09 13:52:34

I know the advice is 6 months, which isn't going to happen as there is not enough room in our room for cot and ds is rapidly getting too big for moses basket.

He is 7 weeks old, but appears to sleep much better without me! When I put him in our room and leave him (with monitor) he sleeps for 4-5 hours. If I go to bed with him it is only 1-2!!

So I am wondering about putting him in own room with a breathing monitor. Anyone else do this early?

colditz Mon 26-Oct-09 13:56:31

Ds1 6 months, ds2 1 year.

If you have a breathing monitor I think he'll be fine, my only issue was that I couldn't sleep if my babies were in another room.

FlamingoBingo Mon 26-Oct-09 13:57:25

4 and 6!

It has been shown many times that it is very risky to put a baby in their own room before 6m. They have immature breathing mechanisms and often 'forget' to breathe. Normally this isn't a problem, they start again no problem, but if they sleep very deeply and don't have adults in the same room whose noise etc. helps to keep their breathing regular then they think this could be one of the things that causes SIDS.

It's fairly unusual to be sleeping for that long at only 7 weeks anyway (the 4-5h you mention). he still needs to feed more frequently than that, ideally, and you may find his weight gain and/or your supply (if you're bfing) slows down if you forgo night feeds that young.

ThisCharmingFlan Mon 26-Oct-09 14:05:16

FB - what if the adults in the room are fast asleep and making no noise, I don't understand how that helps keep a baby's breathing more regular than if it were in a quiet room on it's own?

unfitmother Mon 26-Oct-09 14:06:49

Six months for both for me.

MrsBadger Mon 26-Oct-09 14:07:09

sleeping people don't make no noise hmm

they breathe

roslily Mon 26-Oct-09 14:08:26

ok, I will keep him in room until he outgrown moses basket.

I just feel like I am going to die with this little sleep (he won't sleep longer than 30mins in daytime or in pram while we are out so can't catch up with sleep,)

jumpyjan Mon 26-Oct-09 14:09:43

DD - 6 months (at which point she started to sleep through - we had obviously been disturbing her).

DS - around 5/6 weeks when he got too big for his moses basket.

BornToFolk Mon 26-Oct-09 14:10:22

7 weeks for exactly the reasons you say - he was too big for his Moses basket and there was no space for a cot in our room. We did have a breathing monitor.

He slept through from 7 weeks - as in regularly had 10 hours kip at night. However, this was also when issues with breastfeeding started and I now think that was due to his lack of feeding at night.

I'd do the same again, but if I was breastfeeding, I'd wake them up for more feeds or try to encourage a dreamfeed.

PacificWerewolfwoohood Mon 26-Oct-09 14:14:13

DS1 - cot in his own room from the start, co-slept most nights from about 3am.

DS2 - thrown out of out room aged 2 days, spent first 6 months of his life in pram in kitchen as we had no room for him shock

DS3 - our room/co-slept first few months, DH was booted out to spare bed.

I could not sleep or at least not sleep very well with a baby snuffling and grunting in same room as me. At the same time I would have gone insane with sleep deprivation if we hadn't co-slept to facilitate BFing for hours on end.

Anyhoo, I know all the evidence, but believe there are alternative szenarios for different families.
Also, IME, breathing monitors are a recipe for increased anxiety: they have lots of false alarms and there is not evidence that they help protect healthy newborns. We had one for DS2 who had been born at 31 weeks and I hated the blasted thing. I will not tell you how long we persevered with it...

smile

Twit Mon 26-Oct-09 14:14:19

I put ds1 in his own room, no monitor at 8-12 weeks. He would sleep [10ish-2ish-6ish]

Ds2 went in his own room at about 16 weeks, no monitor, he would [at 8ish weeks] sleep as per ds1.

dd at about 7 months old, with monitor. She slept as the others did.

ds3 at about 8-9 months without monitor, although this was mainly because it broke, we used it when he was younger. He slept like the rest.

I don't think 4 hours is too long, although much longer and, with the info I have now, I would get twitchy and try to dream feed.
Whatever you decide, good luck.

roslily Mon 26-Oct-09 14:14:37

Not breastfeeding anymore for other reasons.

not sure I could with 6 months of his snoring, snuffling, snorting etc! That is one of reasons I can't sleep when he goes back to sleep!

colditz Mon 26-Oct-09 14:18:24

Why don't you leave him asleep with your husband (assuming you have one) and go and sleep in a different place? If you aren't breast feeding your partner can do the night feeds at least one night a week and you can catch up.

A mistake I made when ds1 was tiny was thinking mummy has to do everything or baby will be scarred. This is not true.

pleasechange Mon 26-Oct-09 14:22:04

16mths blush

4-5 hours sleep in a row at 7 weeks shock envy shock envy - OMG

ThisCharmingFlan Mon 26-Oct-09 14:41:21

I wasn't asking for a sarky face, it was a genuine question - adult breathing CAN be completely noiseless. I can't hear my DP breathing when he's lying next to me, so I find the idea that babies can somehow 'tune in' to something almost imperceptible while they're asleep to regulate their own breathing quite interesting. I don't doubt it, I just wasn't aware of the connection.

Twit Mon 26-Oct-09 14:43:57

I guess the noise would not only be occassional snuffles, coughs farting but also turning over and the like.

Twit Mon 26-Oct-09 14:44:43

blush

occasional

ellliebelle Mon 26-Oct-09 15:51:27

roslily my 7 week old dd sounds the same as your ds, i put her down at 8 in moses basket in our room. I go to bed about 10.30/11. She then doesnt wake until between 1 and 2 but then every hour - hour and a half i could cry some nights. a couple of nights she has come in with us and this has stopped her waking, however i dont really like co-sleeping so am at a loss of what to do.

Oblomov Mon 26-Oct-09 15:56:15

Both of them, from the start. After a few days.
I know the risks. I evaluated it. And I was and still am happy with what we did. But that was what we decided. I do not advise anyone else to do it. I just as honest enough to say we did.

flowerybeanbag Mon 26-Oct-09 15:59:15

8 weeks. We all slept much better immediately. I know it's not the recommendation but it was certainly the best thing for us.

MrsJohnDeere Mon 26-Oct-09 16:06:54

Ds1 7 weeks - he slept much better in his own room, as did I.
Ds2 day 2

PestoPumpkinMonster Mon 26-Oct-09 16:10:37

We put both of our dds into a cot in their own room as soon as we came home from hospital. So at less than a week old.

Twit Mon 26-Oct-09 17:44:59

elliebellie, why not try a dreamfeed when you are ready to get into bed? That way if your lo wakes [or not] you can go to bed straight after she is settled.
OR, keep her with you downstairs, then when you are ready for bed, take her up and feed her etc.

cece Mon 26-Oct-09 17:49:01

DS2 is a big baby (91st centile) and is still in his moses basket in our room at 5 months. I am quite shocked and puzzled as to how so many babies are too big for their moses baskets at just a couple of months?

duende Mon 26-Oct-09 17:54:58

Roslily, my DS is 11 weeks old and also seriously outgrowing his basket. Like you, we have no space in our bedroom for a cot, so we will have to move him to his room and the cot in a couple of weeks. We will be using the movement and sound monitor. I found co-sleeping difficult, my back was in agony. I also struggle to get to sleep with all the noises DS makes so still lie there awake an hour after he's settled after his feed. On the other hand, I will miss having him by my side and it will take some getting used to.

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