To clarify, I am NOT talking about leaving him crying.
My DS is 14 wo. Everything I've read talks about not leaving them crying, which I don't do, and don't want to do. I can't find any information on what to do with a baby who is happy to be put in his cot while sleepy, but then takes ages to actually go to sleep!
I put him down at night (after bath, boob and look at a book) when sleepy, and when sleepy for a nap during the day. If I time it exactly right, which is rare, he will go off in 5 mins or so. But usually, it will take maybe 15, or up 50 30mins before he sleeps. In this time, he wriggles, grunts and talks to himself and is starting to suck/cuddle his blankie toy. He sounds a bit frustrated but he gives me a big smile when i go to check him. In fact, he seems happier to be in his cot than in my arms. He often gets angry if I pick him up to 'help' him/rock him to sleep. I usually sit on the floor where he can't see me and get up to give him a stroke/kiss every now and again. Sometimes he takes the dummy, but not always and sometimes he will take it after 20mins or so and then goes off quite quickly. If he does start crying, I always pick him up and usually rock him to sleep.
I feel guilty for leaving him there so long, even though he is happy enough. Should I rock him to sleep, which is always quicker, but we have to get through a few minutes of angry crying, or leave him for possibly half hr/40mins?
So far tonight, it's been 30 mins and I can tell he's getting frustrated but he cries more when I pick him up. I'm tempted to offer him the boob again to calm him down. He won't fall asleep on it, he never does.
Any advice? I'm not sure what to do! Thanks?
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mallorcanmummy · 19/07/2016 19:33
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